The part that confuses me is when you said you said you don't ever check his phone becuase you don't have any trust issues in your relationship... Yet you checked his phone becuase you didn't trust him. And you're throwing around the word "cheating".
Also, you say you don't mind him watching porn while masturbating... You are aware he's not thinking about you during that time either, right? So I fail to see the difference between him "cheating" on you visually and him "cheating" on you with his own hand.
While yes I may agree that it is slightly rude to just whip out your phone and watch porn / update your status / do your taxes / etc while having sex, I wouldn't call it cheating. Those are the words of someone who is insecure and wouldn't even allow porn in their house at all.
Just tell him he was being rude and not to do it again. Don't play the cheating card. That's the beginning of the end of a lot of relationships.
Well I don't think its rude to text and do your taxes while having sex if your partner is asleep at the time. But I would recommend keeping you phone on silent so as not to wake them. That would be rude.
Also no there aren't any trust issues, I didn't check his phone for that reason I was simply curious as to whether or not he was watching porn while having sex with me. No insecurities over here either.
Its ok to masturbate while watching porn when I'm not available, he still has needs at least he's not fucking other females, and no its not cheating so I guess I was wrong for even throwing that out there! We have very open conversations but I'm here looking for input to plan on what I'll say to him about it. We would never get separated for something like that but I don't want to make it into something bigger than it should be. I just didn't like the fact of him watching porn 'while' having sex with me! And also him trying to hide it bothered me even more.
Well if you have the open, adventurous, fantastic sex life that you have eluded to in the comments section, I am sure you have great commination. So why not just try the truth?
"Hey I know you didn't mean anything by it, but it made me uncomfortable when you were having sex with me, but focusing on the porn. Can you not do that in the future?"
Of course if you have great communication, you also could have just asked him what he was doing with his phone, rather then steal it and go through his history.
I checked it right in front of him its not like I was doing it behind his back! We do have all the things I said in the comments but idk... This is the first time there has ever been any issues between us so I didn't know how to handle it! I'm eventually going to tell him, sooner than later because he's noticing something is wrong! Thanks for your advice!
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The part that confuses me is when you said you said you don't ever check his phone becuase you don't have any trust issues in your relationship... Yet you checked his phone becuase you didn't trust him. And you're throwing around the word "cheating".
Also, you say you don't mind him watching porn while masturbating... You are aware he's not thinking about you during that time either, right? So I fail to see the difference between him "cheating" on you visually and him "cheating" on you with his own hand.
While yes I may agree that it is slightly rude to just whip out your phone and watch porn / update your status / do your taxes / etc while having sex, I wouldn't call it cheating. Those are the words of someone who is insecure and wouldn't even allow porn in their house at all.
Just tell him he was being rude and not to do it again. Don't play the cheating card. That's the beginning of the end of a lot of relationships.
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Well I don't think its rude to text and do your taxes while having sex if your partner is asleep at the time. But I would recommend keeping you phone on silent so as not to wake them. That would be rude.
Also no there aren't any trust issues, I didn't check his phone for that reason I was simply curious as to whether or not he was watching porn while having sex with me. No insecurities over here either.
Its ok to masturbate while watching porn when I'm not available, he still has needs at least he's not fucking other females, and no its not cheating so I guess I was wrong for even throwing that out there! We have very open conversations but I'm here looking for input to plan on what I'll say to him about it. We would never get separated for something like that but I don't want to make it into something bigger than it should be. I just didn't like the fact of him watching porn 'while' having sex with me! And also him trying to hide it bothered me even more.
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Well if you have the open, adventurous, fantastic sex life that you have eluded to in the comments section, I am sure you have great commination. So why not just try the truth?
"Hey I know you didn't mean anything by it, but it made me uncomfortable when you were having sex with me, but focusing on the porn. Can you not do that in the future?"
Of course if you have great communication, you also could have just asked him what he was doing with his phone, rather then steal it and go through his history.
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I checked it right in front of him its not like I was doing it behind his back! We do have all the things I said in the comments but idk... This is the first time there has ever been any issues between us so I didn't know how to handle it! I'm eventually going to tell him, sooner than later because he's noticing something is wrong! Thanks for your advice!