Is it normal for my husband to have anal sex on wedding night?

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like he just went for it knowing that i was a virgin and never had any sexual experiences. no he's not bisexual and NO i didn't ask for it but he demanded it which was weird because he hadn't had sex for a very long time since he committed to me and then when he finally had the chance he went for anal?! NO he doesn't watch a lot of porn and yes he had anal sex before we met. but i think it's weird he went for it and it was my first time EVER so it was EXTRA painful. i don't get it and after the anal sex he went on with vaginal intercourse and rest normal but going for anal at first confuses me

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  • sillygirl77
    8 years ago | pl

    Did you say no? If you said no did he continue? If the answer to both of these questions are yes, he raped you. Also he went ass to vag... you'll get an infection this way. I agree with RoseIsabella.. consider an annulment. He was totally uncaring of your feelings physically and emotionally.

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    • wowski
      8 years ago | pl

      i said no and i know it's wrong but the thing is which also confuses me this guy is OBSESSED with me. we were best friends not just a BF and GF and he loves me so much he's possessive even and when i threatened to leave him, he went insane. like i remember he once attacked a friend of mine so violently and broke his nose just because he pushed me and it wasn't that serious it was like stay out of it nothing violent but my husband, BF at that time, just JUMPED at him threw him on the ground and kept punching him. i mean i don't get it why would he want to hurt me? i just dont understand i asked some close friends they said going for anal on the first night is normal.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago | pl

        You married a crazy person. You said, "no", and he didn't stop so that's rape. You married a psycho who broke your friend's nose and anally raped you on your wedding night. I'm sorry, but your relationship with this guy is just one big mistake!

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        • wowski
          8 years ago | pl

          we talked about it and he said he was sorry but then he would smile at me and say that my body liked it and that i had multiple orgasms. i just don't understand why go for anal? and he was very determined he didn't even calm me down or talk AT ALL. he was just smiling in a creepy way all the time that night and was very rough and controlling and scary as hell.
          the thing is i love him so much and he's obsessed with me like he tells me all the time that he shouldn't have ended up with me and i'm outta his league despite the fact that he's actually VERY good looking

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago | pl

            Ooo girl, you better run, and get annulment, fa real yo! I mean who tha fuck is this sorry ass mutha fucka to be telling you shit about your body and feelings? Straight up, you better get you a pair of Asics, put em on, lace em up and start running, gurl!!!

            You my love him, but if he's obsessed and ass raping you ain't no love coming from him. I predict a future of narcissistic abuse from this unfortunate union. Don't be codependent, don't ruin your life. Get out NOW!

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      • sillygirl77
        8 years ago | pl

        If you're scared you can go to a safehouse for abused women. Rape is abuse and he's violent I don't blame you for being scared to leave. Here is a resource you can use to escape safely: http://www.safehorizon.org/page/call-our-hotlines-9.html

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago | pl

    Have you considered an annulment?

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago | pl

    That's wrong for him to demand that as his first 'port of call' especially on your wedding night. Add that to him knowing that you were a virgin and the fact you found it extra painful. Strange and inconsiderate for him to insist on that.

    Was consent given? (what sillygirl said) ...rape..

    Did you talk to him about it?

    He could've waited a few months surely, until you both had more practice at sex with each other and warm up to the idea. In a different circumstance you might have actually enjoyed it too instead of him just getting his rocks off at your expense.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago | pl

    Who said you have to by bisexual to like anal sex? He didn't ask to suck some dude's dick did he? Everyone has an ass. (but I digress) .-.

    You should have know what kind of guy he was before you married him.

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  • idiamin
    8 years ago | pl

    Your husband is a GOD.

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  • thomasatthelake
    1 year ago | pl

    The fact you you were a virgin makes his expectation for anal on your wedding night inappropriate. My wife was not a virgin when we married. In fact, I knew one of the men who entered her when she dated him years prior. We discussed our wedding night in advance and she agreed that we would consummate with anal sex on our wedding night. It took us many tries and lots of lubrication. She cried a lot but with each cry she insisted that I proceed. I am certain she knew it was important for me to have her like others had not. We have been married 30 years and still have frequent sex.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    8 years ago | pl

    And with this violent, selfish, possessive maniac you want to have kids? He's really gonna be a great father...not. It's not just you, it's the future kids you're going to have that I feel sorry for.

    If this post is to be believed, he did this because he did not care for your feelings only for his sexual gratification. Your feelings were eclipsed by his own. He is a selfish nasty bastard. Couldn't you do any better? He's beating up men over you and it's probably turning you on, I wonder how you'll feel when it's your kids he's beating and when he accuses you of looking at another man and beats you up then.

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  • Fish1973m
    8 years ago | pl

    It's not normal to go for the ass first, did he use any lube and would you of let him if he had satisfied you first in the pussy? Did you enjoy it and would you do it again?

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  • JD777
    8 years ago | pl

    If you said no, he should have stopped. But, you chose to not have sex with him before marriage, so you chose not to see if you and he are sexually compatible before committing to marriage. He might be thinking and posting similar negative things about you not wanting anal sex. Not a great start.

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    • Asstastics
      8 years ago | pl

      Sorry OP, my boss can be overly negative at times. I think you should give anal sex a chance. Buy an anal training kit from an internet sex toy web site. Lube them up and stretch your butthole as described in the directions. After your ass is stretched to the diameter of his cock, ass fucking will quickly become a pleasurable experience.

      Have him wear a condom, and lube up your butt really well with KY liquid. Many women dream of being butt fucked, but their narrow minded husbands won't help them. You are truly a lucky girl.

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