Is it normal for my husband to dress up

Ummm I don't think that's what you signed up for when you married him. It's very odd and would be a huge disappointment. I also think it will get worse with time. Why does he feel the need to tell you he looks better than you?

I had a cross dressing fantasy phase, and though it was just a sexual thing the fantasies did to beyond sex, like it was with a girl who was 3 years older than me, who I played cross dressing games with, but first I'll explain the fastasy and it starts like this.
: I come to stay at her place for a weekend, then the second I step inside the feminization began, first she leads me to the bathroom where she applies hair extensions, shaves me to have a smooth feminine body, then I shower to wash my extended hair, and freshly shaven body, then after I dry off, she applies the silicone breast on me, makeup, and paints my nails, after the feminization, we would act like we were a lesbian couple (in her house) then when we get horny we would have fun ideas for sex. like we would wear the same outfits for sex, i have to moan like a girl, or do the feminine "aah aah ahh",call me good girl when I'm doing a good job, and sometimes we would share a double ended dildo, but outside of sex, I can only speak with a feminine voice, be the girl throughout the weekend, and we rate each other's outfits,

And through out that fantasy I no longer felt any guy elements, I felt like I became a girl with a penis.

It's called pegging where a women uses a strap on and a lot of men do this, my husband likes the same but just stockings nothing else, I actually quite like being dominant so bought a strap on that is pleasurable for me as well, I think he is going a bit too fat with make up, where will it end well unless you have boundaries the next thing will be he'll want to go out in public. I think you both need to come to an agreement and set boundaries otherwise this can get out I'd control, also what would you like? You said your sex life has been stale so you need to enjoy yourself too otherwise it'll just cause stress. Hope this helps

sounds like you two need to have a serious discussion on what you are looking for in the relationship.

remember, though, you can't go into something like this with a closed mind - you have to be willing to listen to what your partner wants to say, and what they want. Don't automatically think "well he must be gay then" ... i mean you've been with him almost a quarter of a century already! I think you'd know if he was gay.

or in a nutshell, really communicate

your husband MIGHT be transgendered, or else the cross-dressing has crossed over to be a fetish, which means it'll be a lot harder for him to have sex without the womans clothes. If it really worries you perhaps you should suggest GENTLY that he go see a councilor or something, they may be able to explain the behavior.