guys, first of all , lemme explain i know him for a long, long time but i did not know this side of him. We got married 7 months ago but im so stressed now. He constantly talks bout my past (which apparently i shared with him outta trust)it was pretty nasty. But why bring out that issue when i talk bout a subject that is TOTALLY off topic ? he is EXTEMELY egoistic. can NEVER even pronounce the word sorry . NEVER. and im from India. its dumb here. its not that easy to get outta marriage. No matter what happens the girl shud stick to her hubby(thats a sign of a good wife) thats not me saying, but dumb ppl here. Ive tried talkin to him and i remember he cheated on me during our courtship. i forgave him. My family kept tellin me this is not the guy for u. he isnt worth it. but i did not listen (bad choices). now im suffering. every single day he yells. I do all the work from mornin 6 till 9 when we go back to sleep . Im so stressed now that i stopped talkin to him completely. i do not know what to do. from ur comments , i totally realise that what he's doin is not OKAY. what do i do. i have noone and nobody to go to. my parents will obviously tell me that it was my choice and i have to face the consequences silenty. Just a month , post wedding i was beatin coz i used a bad word while we had an argument . . But for that my dad told him not to ever repeat it . his parents didn't even bother though they knew bout it.i know this is not a marriage counselling site. but i feel HORRIBLE.feeling guilty for makin all the WRONG choices in life.
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We ALL make mistakes, you say you're from India and it's hard to get out of a marraige- are you still living there now?
You only have one shot at life and you're going to spend yours in depression because of this guy. You need to talk to him, and if he can't change his ways I think you should think about leaving him, it's just not fair on you, there are some amazing men out there and you're stuck with him.
As for your parents, my dad would murder anyone who lay their hands on me. Your parents should support you, if you do decide to leave him hopefully they'll stand by your side but I can only imagine how difficult it is and I'm guessing they wont be happy about it. All I can suggest is surround yourself with close friends, people you can trust that will support you.
Marraiges should be born out of love, I don't think he's the one for you I'm afraid
is it normal for my hubby to be grumpy and sad all the time?
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guys, first of all , lemme explain i know him for a long, long time but i did not know this side of him. We got married 7 months ago but im so stressed now. He constantly talks bout my past (which apparently i shared with him outta trust)it was pretty nasty. But why bring out that issue when i talk bout a subject that is TOTALLY off topic ? he is EXTEMELY egoistic. can NEVER even pronounce the word sorry . NEVER. and im from India. its dumb here. its not that easy to get outta marriage. No matter what happens the girl shud stick to her hubby(thats a sign of a good wife) thats not me saying, but dumb ppl here. Ive tried talkin to him and i remember he cheated on me during our courtship. i forgave him. My family kept tellin me this is not the guy for u. he isnt worth it. but i did not listen (bad choices). now im suffering. every single day he yells. I do all the work from mornin 6 till 9 when we go back to sleep . Im so stressed now that i stopped talkin to him completely. i do not know what to do. from ur comments , i totally realise that what he's doin is not OKAY. what do i do. i have noone and nobody to go to. my parents will obviously tell me that it was my choice and i have to face the consequences silenty. Just a month , post wedding i was beatin coz i used a bad word while we had an argument . . But for that my dad told him not to ever repeat it . his parents didn't even bother though they knew bout it.i know this is not a marriage counselling site. but i feel HORRIBLE.feeling guilty for makin all the WRONG choices in life.
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We ALL make mistakes, you say you're from India and it's hard to get out of a marraige- are you still living there now?
You only have one shot at life and you're going to spend yours in depression because of this guy. You need to talk to him, and if he can't change his ways I think you should think about leaving him, it's just not fair on you, there are some amazing men out there and you're stuck with him.
As for your parents, my dad would murder anyone who lay their hands on me. Your parents should support you, if you do decide to leave him hopefully they'll stand by your side but I can only imagine how difficult it is and I'm guessing they wont be happy about it. All I can suggest is surround yourself with close friends, people you can trust that will support you.
Marraiges should be born out of love, I don't think he's the one for you I'm afraid