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My hubby is always (99%) grumpy and has severe mood swings and when we fight he shoves me . i hate that but i cannot stop him as he is physically much stronger than me. is it normal for a guy so young(he's23) to be soooo grumpy/sad/stressed/irritated all the time? help!
Sounds like he is depressed...Is he having trouble with getting or keeping a job? That will cause a man to be depressed however, this does not give him the right to take it out on you...You have to let him know that it is never acceptable to hit you...You have to let him know that you will divorce him if he ever hits you again, and you have to mean it! I am sure your family would rather be mad at you than for this man to kill you! I would not have any kids with this man until he changes...
It sound like he his insecure because of your past, maybe he is stressed by work or money or lack of sleep? It's not always easy to talk in this situation to find the root of the problem, maybe you could put in writing how you feel and see if he answers. If it is true depression or bi-polar disorder you will need medical advice. In the end though it is up to you to decide if it is worth the effort
This sounds like the start of a very abusive relationship. He shoves you? Something is definitely wrong right there.
It sounds like you're intimidated by him too. You have to stand up for yourself and leave. Unless... is he threatening you? If so, you have to tell somebody. It sounds like he has some serious problems within himself that he's taking it out on you. He should probably speak to someone about that. If I were you, I would get out as fast as you can! You can't let someone push you around like that.
Not right or normal to be abused. On another note, it sounds like your husband could be clinicly depressed, If its possible to get a doctor to check, that may help. However, your bigger problem is the pushing and the not able to say sorry.
so... how "terrible" was your past? pretty sure he is like that after hearing something he really didn't like.
guys, first of all , lemme explain i know him for a long, long time but i did not know this side of him. We got married 7 months ago but im so stressed now. He constantly talks bout my past (which apparently i shared with him outta trust)it was pretty nasty. But why bring out that issue when i talk bout a subject that is TOTALLY off topic ? he is EXTEMELY egoistic. can NEVER even pronounce the word sorry . NEVER. and im from India. its dumb here. its not that easy to get outta marriage. No matter what happens the girl shud stick to her hubby(thats a sign of a good wife) thats not me saying, but dumb ppl here. Ive tried talkin to him and i remember he cheated on me during our courtship. i forgave him. My family kept tellin me this is not the guy for u. he isnt worth it. but i did not listen (bad choices). now im suffering. every single day he yells. I do all the work from mornin 6 till 9 when we go back to sleep . Im so stressed now that i stopped talkin to him completely. i do not know what to do. from ur comments , i totally realise that what he's doin is not OKAY. what do i do. i have noone and nobody to go to. my parents will obviously tell me that it was my choice and i have to face the consequences silenty. Just a month , post wedding i was beatin coz i used a bad word while we had an argument . . But for that my dad told him not to ever repeat it . his parents didn't even bother though they knew bout it.i know this is not a marriage counselling site. but i feel HORRIBLE.feeling guilty for makin all the WRONG choices in life.
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We ALL make mistakes, you say you're from India and it's hard to get out of a marraige- are you still living there now?
You only have one shot at life and you're going to spend yours in depression because of this guy. You need to talk to him, and if he can't change his ways I think you should think about leaving him, it's just not fair on you, there are some amazing men out there and you're stuck with him.
As for your parents, my dad would murder anyone who lay their hands on me. Your parents should support you, if you do decide to leave him hopefully they'll stand by your side but I can only imagine how difficult it is and I'm guessing they wont be happy about it. All I can suggest is surround yourself with close friends, people you can trust that will support you.
Marraiges should be born out of love, I don't think he's the one for you I'm afraid
Ok Tina, if Ike shoves u once he will do it again but it may be a lil worse than the first time
lol at the comments. better talk to him, obviously something is going on, dies he have problems at work or still keep in touch with his old friends?
My husband is that way too but he NEVER puts his hands on me.
I'm not really sure why he is that way but you need to tell your hubby that real men don't feel the need to bully their women. That is a horrible thing and I hope he learns to keep his hands to himself!
and lewlew8! how do u knoe ma name ? hav i mentioned it on this site . oh lol! im gettin forgetful :O(
It is "not okay" for anyone to put their hands on you in anger and if you are hitting him first, you need to quit that behavior. You are providing a lil' snapshot of your existence here for us to ponder. I would say that you need some sort of couples therapy if communication has broken down in your relationship to the point of shoving matches.
Uhm it's called leave him. If he is always like that why are you still with him?