Definitely not normal in this case, solely because he isn't even a boyfriend. Now if this was a relationship and he was asking those questions (in moderation) then I'd have to give him props for respecting feelings. Though being hurt easily sounds lame honestly, what could you be hurting his feelings about as friends? I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with. =/
As an edit, perhaps you should question him of whether he is looking for something a bit more than just friends and if not, let him know that all that feelings stuff is making you uncomfortable.
He does like me, I'm just not there yet. I understand that guys are allowed to talk about their feelings, but this is just a little overboard for me. Not what I'm used to at all
I see, in that case then I would just take it that this guy is a nice guy and is just doing things the nice way. Given recent events, I'd have to take my answer back and say it is normal, just not the way most guys would handle things which is unfortunate. I'm not sure what to say about this, it looks like you can't help being uncomfortable but the guy isn't wrong, its a tough situation.
As someone with a lot in common with the guy described, I just want to say this made me feel like crap. Particularly, "I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with." Well, at least I know now why I don't have any friends anymore...
No need to be offended even though I can completely see why you would be given what I typed. I'm sorry my post was offensive however I still can see those kinds of behavior being annoying to someone who isn't a boyfriend. If you're hurt easily on things that are actually insults then I can very well see being upset about that. If the topic creator is the one wrongly offending her friend then that is wrong too. But if someone is getting hurt about tiny things that aren't meant to be insults then I could see that as a problem.
Asking someone if they'd simply like to hang out and chat isn't a problem and asking someone "How does that make you feel?" isn't particularly bad if it was a rare question but a lot could be annoying. I'm not a bad guy, I'm actually quite nice so again, sorry if my post offended you. Acting this way too much could still be annoying to some so yes, I could see it being a problem to others. If you are simply a nice guy who likes conversation then I wouldn't worry too much. Showing off how macho one is and acting tough is overrated anyway.
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Definitely not normal in this case, solely because he isn't even a boyfriend. Now if this was a relationship and he was asking those questions (in moderation) then I'd have to give him props for respecting feelings. Though being hurt easily sounds lame honestly, what could you be hurting his feelings about as friends? I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with. =/
As an edit, perhaps you should question him of whether he is looking for something a bit more than just friends and if not, let him know that all that feelings stuff is making you uncomfortable.
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He does like me, I'm just not there yet. I understand that guys are allowed to talk about their feelings, but this is just a little overboard for me. Not what I'm used to at all
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I see, in that case then I would just take it that this guy is a nice guy and is just doing things the nice way. Given recent events, I'd have to take my answer back and say it is normal, just not the way most guys would handle things which is unfortunate. I'm not sure what to say about this, it looks like you can't help being uncomfortable but the guy isn't wrong, its a tough situation.
As someone with a lot in common with the guy described, I just want to say this made me feel like crap. Particularly, "I'd question whether said friend is good to even continue hanging out with." Well, at least I know now why I don't have any friends anymore...
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No need to be offended even though I can completely see why you would be given what I typed. I'm sorry my post was offensive however I still can see those kinds of behavior being annoying to someone who isn't a boyfriend. If you're hurt easily on things that are actually insults then I can very well see being upset about that. If the topic creator is the one wrongly offending her friend then that is wrong too. But if someone is getting hurt about tiny things that aren't meant to be insults then I could see that as a problem.
Asking someone if they'd simply like to hang out and chat isn't a problem and asking someone "How does that make you feel?" isn't particularly bad if it was a rare question but a lot could be annoying. I'm not a bad guy, I'm actually quite nice so again, sorry if my post offended you. Acting this way too much could still be annoying to some so yes, I could see it being a problem to others. If you are simply a nice guy who likes conversation then I wouldn't worry too much. Showing off how macho one is and acting tough is overrated anyway.