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My girlfriend really likes my dad, and it makes me very uncomfortable. She drew his face everywhere, has a picture of the two of them as her lock screen, and interacts with him a lot on social media. I just want to know if this is normal or if I need to be concerned.
Idk if its normal or not but your girlfriend got some real daddy issues.
Dude don't listen to people and get parnoid, it's not going to help you with your relationships with your dad and your girlfriend. Is it normal, no, but I very much doubt youre dad has been or would fuck your girl, she probably just thinks he's a great guy and looks up to him as a father figure. After all doesn't it kind of make sense, she likes you and obviously half of you is made up from your dad, so she'll probably thinks he's a good guy too. I really wouldn't worry about this, I think it will just damage your relationships across the board.
I used to be married to a girl kinda like this. Except when we were together around other people she gravitated more toward them than me. Used to visit me on my ship while I was on duty. I introduced her to my friend Carlos, a signalman, for Puerto Rico. Every time she visited she wanted to know where Carlos was & if we could see him. Finally told her she wasn't fucking married to Carlos, but me, & sent her dumb ass home. Eventually, she did become unfaithful. If she is more obsessed with Dad than you, I would seriously doubt her true feelings for you. Just be careful, since it involves your family. Good luck!
Honestly though this kind of behaviour is un-feking-acceptable.
Tell her how you feel, if she responds badly, leave the weirdo.
Also talk to your dad, that might give you insight.
Disturbing as hell. How does your dad react? Does he like the attention? If so, hes an asdhole who doesnt understand boundaries.
However, I think this is a troll post, so who cares?
You never stated you or your girlfriend's age. This situation is weird and off base to begin with, but the younger your girlfriend is, the worse it is what your dad's doing, if she's under 18, he's committed a felony.
your gf might have daddy issues.. and are you close with your dad and is he a good guy or the narcissistic type who'd get with his own son's girl..
Your dad might have gotten with her.
If that's the case, beat the shit out of your dad and leave your girl.
Regardless if something happened, just leave the weirdo.
That just seems really creepy. If it bothers you, which I understand why it does, you should say something to her.
If she dumps you for asking, consider yourself lucky - and your dad's about to GET lucky! ;-)
If any of you have any advice on what i should say to her, it would be much appreciated
I would just start with asking her why she is doing it. Not a deep conversation, just a simple "why are you drawing my dad", the next time she does it. Then get back to us. You don't have enough info, and neither do we.
It will be a very difficult issue to raise, particularly given what you say about her being very sensitive to guys who are jealous and your determination not to be controlling.
First, I think you need to try to take a step back and consider whether your reaction to her relationship with your father might indeed be pure and simple jealousy on your part. From what you say, it does sound like she might be a little obsessed with him. Drawing his face repeatedly and using his photo on her lock screen does seem a little weird, and it's not impossible that there's something emotional and sexual going on between the two of them, but it's also possible that she just finds him an appealing father-figure. Older men and younger women are a cliché, but it is possible for two human beings of opposite genders and differing ages to just like each other in a non-sexual sort of way.
What's his attitude towards her? Does it seem similar to how he's been with other girlfriends of yours, or does it seem a lot closer, or does he make an effort to immediately change the subject when her name comes up?
What's her family history? Is she (or was she) close to her father, or was there no father in her life at all? Is there much physical contact between her and your father? Do they seem to have private jokes? Are there opportunities for them to be intimate, and do they seem to set those opportunities up? Do you have good reason to believe that your father might be a bit of a hound? Are there reasons for you to believe that your girlfriend might be less than 100% faithful?
I'm not asking for answers to those questions, just suggesting they're things you could think about when deciding whether this is something you need to talk to her about.
i would be talking to my dad not my girlfriend to find out how long he has been tapping that fine piece of ass. just tell him you are brothers of the hole , maybe he will come clean with you. I never let my dad near my wives or girlfriends because he was an untrustworthy hound dog. I'm not alone. his brother was caught fucking his daughter-in law. like i said its everywhere.
After seeing these responses, I think I am going to talk with her. I was hesitant at first because she has told me how much her ex used to get jealous, and its part of the reason she dumped him, but at this point its bothering me enough that I should speak up
If anyone should be on her lock screen it should be you. I personally would prefer my my cat above any bipedals.
I agree, but i dont want to be controlling, I know that if I told her how i felt about it, she would change it, but it wouldnt be because she wanted to
If I were you I wouldn't worry so much about whether or not she thinks you're jealous or controlling, because in my humble opinion she's acting very inappropriately. I don't really get the impression that you're jealous or controlling.
I'm also curious as to how your dad interacts with her.
i think your dad might have gotten in her pants. it happens a lot. you might need to find a new girl , one that can be faithful , but you should naoil her ass first so as to get some memories yourself.