i'm very sorry to say, that this sounds very like the situation i've been in before. except mine was after 2.5 years. i had gotten bored, met someone a little older and more "interesting", was just friends at first, but got more into him. talked to him a lot, outside of seeing him. my boyfriend noticed what was happening as it happened [though i NEVER would have cheated on him], and soon after, we broke up. dated the other guy not quite six months. realized he wasn't right for me, we broke up [well, i broke up with him], and after a while i ended up getting back with my boyfriend. we've been back together for five years now, and he still stands by his original thoughts, that he had to let me go and do my thing, i had to get it out of my system, or else i would have come to resent him [these are his thoughts, not anything i have said. i agree, after he pointed it out, but it's not something i brought up]. he loves me and i love him very much; we'd do anything for eachother. it worked out for me. i'm sorry to say, that i don't know what will happen for you. like someone pointed out above, seven months is not an incredibly long time.. i'd say you should try talking to her about it, though i'm sure she'll say they're just friends.. but if you really feel that it's more than that, then there's nothing you can change about it.. and if she's cheated on you before, you're probably right with your feeling.. but you have to do what feels best for you. just make sure you know it's right first.. you've been together seven months.. in my opinion, that's not enough time to know if it's love or infatuation.. it's not enough time to actually be love. if you two are really right for eachother, and really want to be together, it will work itself out. if you're not quite compatible, then you're not compatible. don't stay with her just because you don't want to be alone. because someone else will come along, someone better who really really loves you, who would do anything for you and absolutely adores you for you, just the way you are, and then it'll be right. but you won't get that chance if you're stuck in a relationship that isn't right for you
Is it normal for my girlfriend to be doing this
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i'm very sorry to say, that this sounds very like the situation i've been in before. except mine was after 2.5 years. i had gotten bored, met someone a little older and more "interesting", was just friends at first, but got more into him. talked to him a lot, outside of seeing him. my boyfriend noticed what was happening as it happened [though i NEVER would have cheated on him], and soon after, we broke up. dated the other guy not quite six months. realized he wasn't right for me, we broke up [well, i broke up with him], and after a while i ended up getting back with my boyfriend. we've been back together for five years now, and he still stands by his original thoughts, that he had to let me go and do my thing, i had to get it out of my system, or else i would have come to resent him [these are his thoughts, not anything i have said. i agree, after he pointed it out, but it's not something i brought up]. he loves me and i love him very much; we'd do anything for eachother. it worked out for me. i'm sorry to say, that i don't know what will happen for you. like someone pointed out above, seven months is not an incredibly long time.. i'd say you should try talking to her about it, though i'm sure she'll say they're just friends.. but if you really feel that it's more than that, then there's nothing you can change about it.. and if she's cheated on you before, you're probably right with your feeling.. but you have to do what feels best for you. just make sure you know it's right first.. you've been together seven months.. in my opinion, that's not enough time to know if it's love or infatuation.. it's not enough time to actually be love. if you two are really right for eachother, and really want to be together, it will work itself out. if you're not quite compatible, then you're not compatible. don't stay with her just because you don't want to be alone. because someone else will come along, someone better who really really loves you, who would do anything for you and absolutely adores you for you, just the way you are, and then it'll be right. but you won't get that chance if you're stuck in a relationship that isn't right for you