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We've been together with my gf for 4.5 years and we're living in different cities at the moment. She told me she'll be out with a guy from 7pm until midnight on Saturday. She said they used to be really close and they haven't talked to each other for ~5 years. Do you think it's normal that she's meeting a guy until midnight?
Its normal to have friends of the opposite sex. I think I have more lady friends than guy friends. Doesn't mean I have sexual and romantic relations with all of them. I wouldn't date a girl that was jealous and insecure about it.
Its good that she told you, but it sounds like its either a sign that you guys aren't that close, or that she's trying to tell you that she's not that into you.
Don't get mad at her, since in any relationship the only thing you owe each other is honesty, and she gave you that.
That's a huge massive red flag. Even if it is innocent which is doubtful...she must have no respect for how you feel about it regardless. How would she feel if you told her that you were going to be spending most of the night with a girl she didnt know? See...If it were me I would probably just cut my losses and break up.
unless she and you have a mono relationship promise is quite normal. doesn't seem worrisome since she informed you of her activity. doubt is because she was horny as would not honor you with sharing her agenda.
Sorry, even if she told you..Where there's smoke, there's fire. If anything, she's flaunting it in your face "I'm out with a guy, you're not here, and I'm getting away with it". I dated a woman who remained closed to many of her guy friends from high school, and, even before I met her, didn't like one guy I knew from the sports bar I go to. Didn't even know she and he had that hs thing.
Once I found that out, yeah, I was suspicious, especially since she avoided questions I'd ask about him. We got into it one night as I read post after post online about a "dinner date" she had, and it wasn't with me. Responses to her post included "Finally say yes to??" and "Ooh..His house?", sending me fuming. And rightfully so, as I was correct in my assumption. They were not merely "just friends from high school". I knew he was after her.
Broke up with her that night, and didn't hear from her for 2 years. In that time, the guy married someone else (who I also knew from the sports bar, believe it or not, and thought was way, way too good for him). I know one of these nights when she and I are chatting, I'm going to mention it. Still want answers.
Why is there a time limit lol why would she tell you from this time to this time.? Your weird this whole thing is weird
I had more guy friends than girls, would even stay over sometimes but I have never cheated.
I can see why that would make you worry, but if this is the only red flag to happen ever and things are otherwise okay from here on, maybe it really is just going out for drinks with an old friend.
It's perfectly normal to have friends of the opposite sex and it's not like enjoying any night life means they're going to hook up. It's comforting to me that she'd tell you about it and be honest with you, makes me want to lean toward thinking she's trying to be careful not to cross any lines with her friend. I'd be much more worried if she didn't tell you.
Hate these. There has to be some trust but it cant be left unwatched. If you go in too hard it can push her right into him and if you play it down its another problem message. I would admit that i didnt like it all that much but still green light it and see what she comes back with then play it by ear.
If you cannot accept what she does, you may have to move on. Many couples have open relationships. They can work if both of you are open and honest about it. She will probably go out with other guys after you two are married if you end up together.