I understand and respect the opinion that total honesty is important in a relationship. I'll even agree to it if it's important to my partner.
Personally, I feel that some level of privacy and a few secrets are okay in a relationship. I think that we develop our own personalities through a combination of things we're open about and share, and things we prefer to keep to ourselves. There are some things we simply don't want to be blatantly honest about - like an embarrassing health concern, body issues, fleeting thoughts and notions... because we feel that revealing these "secrets" might make things awkward for our partner.
About key issues that strongly affect the relationship, I would agree open honesty is vital. When it comes to smaller issues... well, sometimes it's alright to have a few secrets. A little bit of mystery can create a healthy level of intrigue, as well. Perhaps it's not necessary to know that my partner has a bowel condition that gives him/her diarrhea frequently :P Perhaps it's fun and exciting to not KNOW if my partner is thinking about a certain sex act that would excite and thrill me, but to guess at it, and play the game of little hints and subtlety, building up a pleasant tension about it.
In the end, I suppose the saying "To each their own" is best, however.
Is it normal for my gf to do this???
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I understand and respect the opinion that total honesty is important in a relationship. I'll even agree to it if it's important to my partner.
Personally, I feel that some level of privacy and a few secrets are okay in a relationship. I think that we develop our own personalities through a combination of things we're open about and share, and things we prefer to keep to ourselves. There are some things we simply don't want to be blatantly honest about - like an embarrassing health concern, body issues, fleeting thoughts and notions... because we feel that revealing these "secrets" might make things awkward for our partner.
About key issues that strongly affect the relationship, I would agree open honesty is vital. When it comes to smaller issues... well, sometimes it's alright to have a few secrets. A little bit of mystery can create a healthy level of intrigue, as well. Perhaps it's not necessary to know that my partner has a bowel condition that gives him/her diarrhea frequently :P Perhaps it's fun and exciting to not KNOW if my partner is thinking about a certain sex act that would excite and thrill me, but to guess at it, and play the game of little hints and subtlety, building up a pleasant tension about it.
In the end, I suppose the saying "To each their own" is best, however.