Actually, there's a new change of plans. Our break was supposed to be almost like a normal break up; we would be free to do whatever we want, yes, but still in the hope that we could make it work someday. Well, I've just realized I definitely don't want him anymore. Just a while ago he sent his ex (who he was never supposed to talk to again due to their incredibly miserable and complicated past) a friend request on facebook again and he told me that he just wants to know how she was doing. But the thing is that I do remember the time when we were just starting to be together and that made the girl very sad so my ex told her that if things didn't work out with me he could give it another shot with her. What a pathetic son of a bitch. And besides, I was trying to behave properly now that I've seen him and we apologized for everything thats been going un during the whole spring and summer; all the fights etc, but he also started picking up a fight the other day, accusing me of things that I hadn't done, saying terrible things about me and then telling me that no matter what I'd say he's made up his mind about what happened. So I guess he hadnt had enough of fighting yet. Ive decided to let him go and to do whatever I want with my life. He's not worth it.
I guess you never know a person well enough. That combined with all the shit we've had to go through during the LDR has just been enough. We really tried (trust me, I tried even more...) but I don't deserve to be treated this way and he doesn't deserve someone like me. In your case everything seems to be okay with no bigger troubles, so that is good and I don't wonder why you guys are willing to work for it until the very end. We realized that we wouldn't have a future together in years and being the way we were for such a long time would not be healthy.
So I still wish you good luck! Trust me, I know how hard it is to be like that for every day so I'm very proud of you for going on and being so positive about it!
It's crazy we started talking about this half a year ago. When I first heard of this guy you described, I had my doubts. But it would be more wise of me to talk to you as if you have a fair chance to make things good, rather than saying things are definitely going to get worse. Then I'm potentially interfering with your trust for him when it was all ok and blah blah.
ANYWAY. I wish you all the best for finding someone who is right for you. And my advice to you as a male, is to go to extreme measures to make sure you can trust your future partner 100%. 99.99% is not enough. We all face negative temptations every day, and cheating is just so common.
Long distance relationships need to start off extra special, because it requires extra commitment and trust. I'm sure you know that now x)
Feel free to respond anytime in the long future! All the best c:
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Actually, there's a new change of plans. Our break was supposed to be almost like a normal break up; we would be free to do whatever we want, yes, but still in the hope that we could make it work someday. Well, I've just realized I definitely don't want him anymore. Just a while ago he sent his ex (who he was never supposed to talk to again due to their incredibly miserable and complicated past) a friend request on facebook again and he told me that he just wants to know how she was doing. But the thing is that I do remember the time when we were just starting to be together and that made the girl very sad so my ex told her that if things didn't work out with me he could give it another shot with her. What a pathetic son of a bitch. And besides, I was trying to behave properly now that I've seen him and we apologized for everything thats been going un during the whole spring and summer; all the fights etc, but he also started picking up a fight the other day, accusing me of things that I hadn't done, saying terrible things about me and then telling me that no matter what I'd say he's made up his mind about what happened. So I guess he hadnt had enough of fighting yet. Ive decided to let him go and to do whatever I want with my life. He's not worth it.
I guess you never know a person well enough. That combined with all the shit we've had to go through during the LDR has just been enough. We really tried (trust me, I tried even more...) but I don't deserve to be treated this way and he doesn't deserve someone like me. In your case everything seems to be okay with no bigger troubles, so that is good and I don't wonder why you guys are willing to work for it until the very end. We realized that we wouldn't have a future together in years and being the way we were for such a long time would not be healthy.
So I still wish you good luck! Trust me, I know how hard it is to be like that for every day so I'm very proud of you for going on and being so positive about it!
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It's crazy we started talking about this half a year ago. When I first heard of this guy you described, I had my doubts. But it would be more wise of me to talk to you as if you have a fair chance to make things good, rather than saying things are definitely going to get worse. Then I'm potentially interfering with your trust for him when it was all ok and blah blah.
ANYWAY. I wish you all the best for finding someone who is right for you. And my advice to you as a male, is to go to extreme measures to make sure you can trust your future partner 100%. 99.99% is not enough. We all face negative temptations every day, and cheating is just so common.
Long distance relationships need to start off extra special, because it requires extra commitment and trust. I'm sure you know that now x)
Feel free to respond anytime in the long future! All the best c: