Is it normal for my father to be like this

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My father is very abusive to my mother, my sister and I, to the point that each one of us developped a certain mental disorder, I personally have been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder since 16. My mom wants divorce and told him she does not want to sleep with him anymore. But he got so frustrated he hit her so many times and even sexually assaulted her. She wants to contact a lawyer or something but he is keeping her at home and watching her every move. What do I do ? I want to help but each person I go to tells me they need to hear it from her and not me. But she is held captive at home. :(

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  • Takuto
    6 years ago

    I recommend going to the police or call your nearest Abuse hotline such as Childline. They will be able to help you and your family get away from your father.
    Additionally, if you don't want to go to the authorities, tell your maternal grandparents and they may offer you a place to stay.

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    • suckonthis9
      6 years ago

      Brainwashed.

      Go to the worst abusers to do something about another abuser, good plan.
      You know what police-criminals will do? Absolutely nothing, until the damage is done, someone gets seriously injured or killed, and it's too late.
      They habitually turn victims of crime into criminals, unjustifiably, and the so-called criminal-justice system is so perverted and corrupt that there's nothing you can do about it.

      Go to police-criminals, and they will likely wait until he kills someone or injures someone severely, then they will arrest him, and make him a deal.
      They will offer him a stupid gun, a worthless badge, and a bullshit uniform; so that he can kill some innocent person for them, that they don't like, instead of going to prison.

      Are you naïve, gullible, or just plain stupid?

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      • Takuto
        6 years ago

        Just because you're a paranoid conspiracy nut.
        Criminals, believe it or not, are imprisoned in the real world and definitely not given jobs as officers. Calling the authorities does work and, although there's a few dirty cops out there, you can actually get help.
        If all cops were secretly criminals, riots wouldn't get sorted out and shootings wouldn't be investigated.

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        • suckonthis9
          6 years ago

          In which world is that, because it certainly isn't in this one?

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          • Takuto
            6 years ago

            You're experiences aren't the summary of human nature.
            People can be good.
            Some are evil but not all.

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            • suckonthis9
              6 years ago

              The problem with your philosophy is:

              What is deemed to be good for one person, is invariably bad (evil) for another person.
              The inverse is also true: What is deemed to be evil for one person, is invariably good for another person.

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      • suckonthis9
        6 years ago

        So-called "authorities" are self-appointed bullshit peddlers, who aren't an authority on anything.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    No! He's a monster. If you can without being caught, record him abusing her next time it happens. Then take the evidence straight to police, or the nearest person who cares if police aren't close enough. With video evidence he will most likely get arrested. And even if he's only given a short sentence, it will give you and your family time to run.
    Protect your mother and siblings. Do whatever is necessary. If police and other people don't listen, then take matters into your own hands. Don't feel sorry. He doesn't love you guys. If he did he wouldn't be beating you and raping your mom. Either way he needs to be stopped. If I knew you I'd help, but we may not even live in the same state. Please be careful. And be safe. Don't let him win, but be smart. Sending a prayer and virtual hug your way.

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    where are you from

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  • sissycakes
    6 years ago

    Go to the police, please. Your mother cannot deserve this.

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  • DV8Guy60
    6 years ago

    I would be led to believe, Suckonthis9 is actually an abuser, trying to create a belief there is no where for the abused to go!

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    The first step is getting out of there. After you're away from him, papers can be served in multiple ways.
    If you can get evidence and turn him over to the authorities, do so. If you can stand up to him, that's another option.
    Barring all else, the schmuck has to sleep or leave the place sometime. If you guys have an opportunity to flee, I'd say take it.

    Just so you know, going by your story, your father is guilty of false imprisonment in addition to rape, assault, and battery.

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  • Ashley25
    6 years ago

    I Kno may be dangerous but I would get a camera and record him abusing you guys and show it to the cops for proof

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    GO TO THE POLICE STATION, AND TELL THEM WHAT IS HAPPENING.

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    Call the POLICE!

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    • suckonthis9
      6 years ago

      Call the ORGANIZED CRIMINALS (who pretend to be police bullshit)!

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  • MilitaryMedic
    6 years ago

    Your dad is not normal. Your mom needs to make a statement to the police and press assault (physical and sexual) charges against your dad. Anyone can contact them, but your mom has to be willing and committed to make the statement herself when they get there. So whoever contacts the police, they have to be positive she will report him. While he’s in jail she can contact a lawyer and sue him for divorce and assault. She should also request a restraining order to keep your dad away from her.

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