Is it normal for my family to not believe me?

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I just turned 18 and will be graduating high school soon, but my situation at home has gotten progressively worse. My mother passed two years ago, so I only live with my brother and father and am the only girl. Since I was in nineth my brother has lost his temper and taken it out on me. He throws me against walls and hits me. Even when I had bruises from it nobody ever believed me. He has threatened to kill me with a knife before and it still terrifies me. He is four years older than me and a lot bigger. Both my dad and brother call me a bitch and other words. My dads little help because he slaps me, once until my eyes were swollen. It has gotten worse and everytime I try to leave they stop me. I have gotten really depressed and turned to cutting. I don't know why it makes me feel better, but I don't know what to do. None of my family believes me even when I have scars to prove it.

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  • rayst
    12 years ago | pl

    POLICE!!!!!!!!

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago | pl

    Just runaway. Simple.

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  • Ilovekittens1985
    12 years ago | pl

    Well done gems you are a decent human being.

    You will never regret leaving and as soon as you are free do you'll regret not leaving a long time ago!

    Time to finally enjoy the freedom you deserve. It's ok to love yourself!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Do the following ONLY if you have time; otherwise, grab your stuff and go to the police immediately.

    [1] Visit a police station and file a police report about the last assault by your father and brother (if the police came to your father's home to take your report, this might cause your father and/or brother to give the police conflicting statements and to become violent towards you after they leave). You want to create a paper trail of the assaults so that when you call the police in the future, they will side with you and not your father or your brother. The police have a "first come, first served attitude" about believing citizens contacting them. So you got to them first. Great.

    If the police officer informs you that your father and brother will be questioned about your complaint (and they will be) let the police officer know that you are afraid of your father and brother and that you are still living in the house with them. Ask the officer for any advice on how to safely leave this situation and to quickly find decent, affordable transitional housing for women in your situation. Ask them about community resources for runaways and teens in trouble. Take note of this information in the event that you are immediately put out by your father for placing the police report.

    [2] Get a full-time job at a fast food restaurant or anywhere else morally plane where you can quickly get hired and save your money for a month's rent and a deposit for a "room". It should take you about 4 months to save up enough cash to take your next step; meanwhile, contact area colleges and universities and inquire about off-campus housing opportunities in your area; where you can share a house with students. Oftentimes, these home owners will rent a room out to the general public, as well; especially to someone as young as you.

    [3] Keep yourself out of your father's house and busy as much as possible. Try to join a free women's self defense class in the neighborhood. The police might know of one that you can join or you can go to your government's website and explore those resources too.

    [4] Give away and get rid of your stuff that you are not going to be taking with you. Be realistic that you will be residing in a small room and sharing a bathroom with others for a few months. Pack secretly and pack only as much as you can carry. Hide your suitcase.

    [5] When you have enough money saved, contract for a room and try to leave the next day. Never give your father's home phone number to anyone that could tell him or your brother where you went by accident. Don't use your cell phone either if your father is paying the bill. Use public phones to make arrangements for the room and to call a cab... Or go on the street and hail a cab.

    Done. Hopefully, you are now safe and free of the situation. Of course, you don't have to stay in a boarding house room forever! But, at least now you are safe and able to move forward without any obstacles or threats.

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  • Imjustthatgirl
    12 years ago | pl

    call the cops

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  • buckman
    12 years ago | pl

    It makes you feel better because you're in control. However, it's not healthy at all. You should go to an authority figure like a police officer. You're 18 so your dad no longer has a say in your life, which means you can tell a friend, their parents and the police. Then you'll likely have a safe place to go to finish the school year. You can also have your dad and brother arrested... And a restraining order on them.

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  • chewy
    12 years ago | pl

    ouch sounds like an abusive family im sorry to hear that first of your dad is a fucking asshole so is your brother thats not healthy to deal with that maybe you should talk to someone about it and please dont cut yourself its not how you deal with problems even though you might think it helps it doesnt it only makes things worse and thats not right for them to call you a bitch for no reason just tell your brother and dad to go fuck themselves and leave the house because thats fucked up

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