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You sound really lovely and thank you so much for the advice but when you say 'Careful things don't escalate' are you saying what I think yore saying?
And by red flags, do you mean to say that you think that he might of done something when i was asleep, I just dont think he would.
I don't know if he touched you in your sleep or not but by red flags I mean that there are some warning signs. Those signs don't ''prove'' anything is going to happen but they are worth paying attention to Because if something is wrong you'll notice more and more of them.
By escalate yah I pretty much mean what you think, things could get steadily worse and creepier, I don't know if he'll ever go as far as trying to fuck you but there very well could be some touching and deliberate peeping if things do escalate. Just becareful and watch for signs, if you don't things can get out of hand before you realize, it reminds me of the clock analogy, it's like the hour hand on a clock you never really see it move but it does.
Also if he drinks, don't go near him for at least a month, if something is wrong while drunk he could be more aggressive and even if he's just had a little he could use it as an excuse to play grab ass.
I hope that all this is one big mistake and wish you the best, but becareful and watch for warning signs just in case.
After the way he looked at me when he walked in on me and how my top was so far up when he woke me. its as if I feel I don't trust him any more. All the warning sighs you talk about...if I think about how my Dad was with me before he saw me naked, we always cuddled up the sofa or he would tickle me under my top when we wrestled or I'd sit at his feet in a nighty after my bath and he would massage my shoulders
All these things are perfectly innocent, or at least i think they are and yet they could now be seen as the red flags you mentioned.
i want to carry on the same as before but now the compliment on my figure and my looks feel like they mean more. They come with that look, they feel like the comments from a regular guy who's trying to hit on me instead of a dad trying to make his daughter feel good.
I'm sorry for the confusion, it's hard to give advice on this because it can be difficult to discern between whats innocent and what's not.
I was thinking earlier about how some of the issues you described could be misinterpreted. Like the coffee could've been cold because he brought it and tried to wake you but you didn't wake so he left and came back later, which means he might've not been waiting and therefore if he just came and went quickly he might not have even noticed your top.
But what you said about it being unusual behavior for him to do that does raise questions.
I know I'm confusing you more and I appologize for it. I'm just trying to make sure you stay alert but also don't let innocent behavior affect your relationship with your dad.
Like I said it's difficult to discern, just keep a look out and if he does something you deem inappropriate, if your not sure it was meant to b that way, simply say you don't like it and ask him to stop, hopefully it won't escalate past that.
i know, I know, i'm sorry, I'm sorry. if I made you feel bad. It isn't your help that's a problem. I came to the same point you made about him being turned on by seeing me naked because after my bath last night, I sat on his lap watching TV dressed in just a towel and cuddled up to him but I had to move after just a couple of minutes because I could feel him getting physically aroused.
I've done that same thing in the recent past and it hasn't turned him on like that before. so clearly the hallway thing with my towel has effected the way he sees me.
Like you said, I will try to not do get too paranoid or distant. I sent a message out to him be asking for a lock on my bedroom door. I he did grope my breasts the other morning, and lets face it, I wouldn't have mentioned if if I thought he hadn't, at least with a lock he wont be tempted to do it again.
IIN For my dad to keep mentioning my towel slip
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To Mr.mr
You sound really lovely and thank you so much for the advice but when you say 'Careful things don't escalate' are you saying what I think yore saying?
And by red flags, do you mean to say that you think that he might of done something when i was asleep, I just dont think he would.
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I don't know if he touched you in your sleep or not but by red flags I mean that there are some warning signs. Those signs don't ''prove'' anything is going to happen but they are worth paying attention to Because if something is wrong you'll notice more and more of them.
By escalate yah I pretty much mean what you think, things could get steadily worse and creepier, I don't know if he'll ever go as far as trying to fuck you but there very well could be some touching and deliberate peeping if things do escalate. Just becareful and watch for signs, if you don't things can get out of hand before you realize, it reminds me of the clock analogy, it's like the hour hand on a clock you never really see it move but it does.
Also if he drinks, don't go near him for at least a month, if something is wrong while drunk he could be more aggressive and even if he's just had a little he could use it as an excuse to play grab ass.
I hope that all this is one big mistake and wish you the best, but becareful and watch for warning signs just in case.
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After the way he looked at me when he walked in on me and how my top was so far up when he woke me. its as if I feel I don't trust him any more. All the warning sighs you talk about...if I think about how my Dad was with me before he saw me naked, we always cuddled up the sofa or he would tickle me under my top when we wrestled or I'd sit at his feet in a nighty after my bath and he would massage my shoulders
All these things are perfectly innocent, or at least i think they are and yet they could now be seen as the red flags you mentioned.
i want to carry on the same as before but now the compliment on my figure and my looks feel like they mean more. They come with that look, they feel like the comments from a regular guy who's trying to hit on me instead of a dad trying to make his daughter feel good.
I'm confused.
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I'm sorry for the confusion, it's hard to give advice on this because it can be difficult to discern between whats innocent and what's not.
I was thinking earlier about how some of the issues you described could be misinterpreted. Like the coffee could've been cold because he brought it and tried to wake you but you didn't wake so he left and came back later, which means he might've not been waiting and therefore if he just came and went quickly he might not have even noticed your top.
But what you said about it being unusual behavior for him to do that does raise questions.
I know I'm confusing you more and I appologize for it. I'm just trying to make sure you stay alert but also don't let innocent behavior affect your relationship with your dad.
Like I said it's difficult to discern, just keep a look out and if he does something you deem inappropriate, if your not sure it was meant to b that way, simply say you don't like it and ask him to stop, hopefully it won't escalate past that.
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i know, I know, i'm sorry, I'm sorry. if I made you feel bad. It isn't your help that's a problem. I came to the same point you made about him being turned on by seeing me naked because after my bath last night, I sat on his lap watching TV dressed in just a towel and cuddled up to him but I had to move after just a couple of minutes because I could feel him getting physically aroused.
I've done that same thing in the recent past and it hasn't turned him on like that before. so clearly the hallway thing with my towel has effected the way he sees me.
Like you said, I will try to not do get too paranoid or distant. I sent a message out to him be asking for a lock on my bedroom door. I he did grope my breasts the other morning, and lets face it, I wouldn't have mentioned if if I thought he hadn't, at least with a lock he wont be tempted to do it again.
I just want my old Daddy back.