I had a friend who was just like that. And like thc123 said, he was sexually abused as a child. He confided in me that every time he tried to be intimate with a girl all those memories and emotions that he tries so hard to hide come back. He can't help but cry. I think he just needs time, but how much time differs with each person. I definitively wouldn't try to force him into anything if he's not comfortable.
When situations like this happen, people always think it's their fault. But whether child abuse is the case with him or not, there are obviously greater things at play it. I'm sure it's not your fault. You really should have a serious conversation about it. Tell him that it's been long enough and that you deserve to know what's going on. But son't pressure him to tell you. Let him know that you're there for him to matter what. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck =]
IIN for my boyfriend to cry if we do anything more than kissing?
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I had a friend who was just like that. And like thc123 said, he was sexually abused as a child. He confided in me that every time he tried to be intimate with a girl all those memories and emotions that he tries so hard to hide come back. He can't help but cry. I think he just needs time, but how much time differs with each person. I definitively wouldn't try to force him into anything if he's not comfortable.
When situations like this happen, people always think it's their fault. But whether child abuse is the case with him or not, there are obviously greater things at play it. I'm sure it's not your fault. You really should have a serious conversation about it. Tell him that it's been long enough and that you deserve to know what's going on. But son't pressure him to tell you. Let him know that you're there for him to matter what. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck =]