Is it Normal for my boyfriend to consider forcing me to have sex?

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  • It's a fantasy. It's normal even if it does seem a little off. Don't that one thing change how comfortable you are with him.

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    • Show me a rape that didn't start as fantasy.

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      • Umm almost all of them... If you want to rape someone you bring a drunk girl home, not tell the person you're with that this might be something you like to try.

        I know this because I've spent the better part of the last decade with somebody who has this exact fantasy and he's never acted on anything without permission. This is not that out of the realm when it comes to sex. I would actually feel flattered that my boyfriend was comfortable enough with me to share this with me. Not everybody is prudish when it comes to sex.

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        • That's more of the way I was thinking of it too. I'm glad he's honest with me about these kinds of things, don't get me wrong; I appreciate that he can be open about sex and our relationship.

          Sex tends to be one of those topics that kind of gets my anxiety going easily. It's entirely possible I'm just overreacting to something he was genuinely trying to share with me.

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          • Well there you go. And you can do like a half rape scenario. Lol. Start with letting him tie your arms up or something. I only say this if you really do trust him and feel safe with him. You know that part right? But yeah exploring your sex life is fun! And you never know you might actually like not having any control. It's very liberating.

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      • Bingo bango!

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    • How do you know he won't act on it? OP as far as I'm concerned it's NOT normal.

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        I said, I know because I've been in a relationship with somebody for the better part of the last decade that has this same fantasy. He's never acted on anything without permission. I'm not saying everyone is like that but it's not out of the realm when it comes to sex. There's nothing wrong with that fantasy. I would feel flatter that my mate was comfortable enough to share it with me. Not everyone is prudish when it comes to sex.

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