Is it normal for my boyfriend to be so depressed?

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My boyfriend recently started anti depressants , so I know he. Is depressed . He said he needs space for a while . But we are still together ( facebook still shows us as I'n relationship too ) . I just want to help and feel so hopeless .

I have sent him a text once every couple of days just to let him know I am there etc , and he doesn't reply which I understand .

But he logs on facebook everyday posting sad songs but still talking to his friends , but if I even just post a few xxx on his wall he deletes it ( never used to before )

Am I just taking it too personally , or is it as his friends aren't so deeply connected with him he finds it easier ?
Sorry for ramble just need to let it out . Also I have noone to confide I'n as they take the attitude .. Everyone gets depressed get over it .

If only it was that simple for him I know he would

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  • saz
    12 years ago | pl

    Thanks for replies so far.

    I think he finds it easier talking to old friends on facebook as they remember him of the 'good times' .

    His mum keeps texting me and updating how he is . He was staying with her but decided to go to his own place as he " doesnt wanna talk to anyone at the moment " . Im just hoping this cloud will pass .

    No i have never dealt with this kinda depression have looked online at stuff and it seems the only thing i can do is let him know i am there for him .

    I have been trying to get him to go the the dr for months as he has been getting worse since he took champix( but i made him stop as made him completely change his personality ) .

    Least he listened to me in the end , but i think the delay made him get worse when it wasnt needed.

    But im not going to split up with him , as i have never met anyone so understanding , caring , and honest . Even before this he used to tell me how he feels sad etc , and didnt know what to do . So i will support him in anyway i can xx

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  • SATC
    12 years ago | pl

    It's not right for him to be ignoring you like that. However, if you have never experience depression; and I don't mean "OMG i've broken a nail, I want to die" depression, then you will never understand the absolute despair this poor boy is probably in. Stick by him, but you need to tell him that even though he's having a tough time he can't treat you in this way.
    P.S- FUCK all those who say "Everyone gets depressed get over it." THEY DON'T HAVE A CLUE.

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  • eeliinnaa
    12 years ago | pl

    well i think u shudnt brake up wit him cuz tht will prob make him more depressed and he wite suicide i guess idk O.O like ask him or sommeone n try to figure out why he is so depressed maybe then u cud help him...

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  • moomus
    12 years ago | pl

    Some people use their depression as an excuse to be offhand with others. I'm not saying he's doing this but talking to people on Facebook then ignoring you or deleting your stuff sounds disrespectful to me. Especially as you're doing what he asks and giving him space. If he doesn't seek help or show improvement then I'd reassess the relationship and decide if it's worth pursuing. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And you have your own emotional health to consider and it doesn't sound like he's doing you any good.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago | pl

    You deserve more for yourself. Don't feel like your responsible for his feelings, HE is responsible for them. He makes a decision to act like this, now its your choice: do you want to be with someone this depressing? I wouldn't... it may seem mean to some people that might say "he cant help it, he's depressed" but he is still depressed, do you want to be with someone who mentally/physically sucks the life out of you? It's your life, make it awesome, dont take on the responsibility of everyone else - or your in for a long road of guilt trips and not living for yourself.

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago | pl

    Is he a emo?

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