Is it normal for my boy not to want to be in a relationship with me?

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Hey, so me and this guy have known each other for a couple years. We dated in the past, shit happened and it didn't work out then.. But recently we've been seeing each other, once or twice a week. We hang out, make out, have sex, etc. We have history. But he doesn't want to be in a relationship. His excuse is he is going to "have a busy summer". I know almost 100 percent he isn't doing anything with anyone other than me. Is this normal? I'm not a guy, so I don't know what he is thinking about the whole situation. Help me out! Tell me your opinions? Thanks :)

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  • marley56
    13 years ago

    Agreed with above. He's using you. Free sex and no commitment, no having to buy you gifts and dinners, no wasting time on endless talks about your future together. You need to stop giving him what he wants.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      This.

      He's getting what he wants from you.
      That apparently is all that matters to him

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Why would he date you when he can f*ck your easy self for free! Close those legs and get some self respect!!!

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  • firefly88
    12 years ago

    Well you called him your boy. He's not your boy if he doesn't want to b your bf so it's time to let go

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  • PureSilence877
    13 years ago

    Everyone above has a point... From a guys perspective, he's likely sticking around only for your easily opened legs. If you love him, then that, I'd imagine, says "have some self-respect for yourself!" you can do so much better! But, that's just one man's thought... SYOTOS!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    What do you mean he doesn't want to be in a relationship? He is! He is not some random stranger.

    I agree with combatgal but take it a step further, tell him how you feel AND what you want. Think about what you want in this relationship beforehand. What would be deal breakers? What's minimally acceptable? What's optimal?

    You say you have self respect. OK then define & articulate the standards by which you would feel respected.

    I agree with most though who can't see a lot of self-respect on your part when you are willing to continue screwing a guy who then denies a "relationship" and claims he's too busy to acknowledge it. He's treating you like a slut.

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  • So.Not.Normal
    13 years ago

    I don't mean for this to sound mean or cold...
    Have you ever heard the expression "Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free"?
    It seems to fit your situation perfectly. Stop being so easy. You need to at least PRETEND like its hard to get, even if it isn't all that hard for him to get it...

    Or he may just want to stay single and keep his options open. Never know when someone "better" may come along...j/s...

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  • combatgal856
    13 years ago

    Tell him how you feel and get an answer for him. And like the above said stop giving him what he wants and see how he reacts.

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  • khamkham
    13 years ago

    Maybe he is not just into you. Or maybe he is afraid for a commitment - a responsibility. He is just enjoying his bachelor life, I think. SO don't feel bad, if you really like this boy.. you deserve to be happy too. =)

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    i have self respect, i really love this guy.

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Sorry but I agree with the others, maybe randomjelly was a little bit harsh though.

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  • holmesm
    13 years ago

    Sounds like he's after a NSA bunk up. He gets to have sex and feel intimacy with another person without having to truly commit to anything.

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