Is it normal for my bf to act like this?

So my boyfriend and I have together for a month now and he has started to really care about who I am with! The other day he asked me who I was with in a text and jokingly I replied Jesus and he called me and was like WHAT DID I TELL YOU ABOUT TELLIN ME WHO YOUR WITH!! he was pissed and he had told me about it the day before but I had just forgot.. He also sometimes takes his hands and puts them around my neck like he is going to choke me but he never squeezes or anything it's always been like playful but I'm starting to wonder of these are the early warning signs of someone who is gonna be abusive? PLEZ HELP!!!

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  • Mellox

    Get out now.

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  • noodle76

    i had this, it started like that, turned into harmless spanking, then abusive spanking (like wouldnt stop) , to hitting, to choking, then i had to call the police coz he stabbed me in the arm and was chasing me with a knife!

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  • tygeronherbed

    boyfriends are supposed to always be sweet and caring, if hes acting controlling already you have a problem. you are a princess, you deserve a prince, not a fire breathing dragon.

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  • Those aren't warning signs of abuse, that IS abuse

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  • Run now. All the indications are there that he could and most likely will turn violent.

    I would never tolerate my bf shouting at me like that.

    Also putting his hands around your neck even if he doesn't squeeze. I'd leave before anything else can happen, I'm sorry.

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  • hippychick

    Yeah, I'm sorry sweetie, but I would leave before you're too attached. All sorts of red flags went up on this one. The fact that he'd yell at you for not telling him who your with...or even the simple fact that you should be forced to because he says so is definitely not a good indicator. I wouldn't stick around to find out of I was right or not. The fact that you're even posting this says you've also seen the red flags and that you likely know that you don't really need I ask.

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  • Mersaphe

    Maybe he thought you were doing it with the fat Mexican guy down the street named Jesus.

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  • StrawberryTurtle

    break up with him!(make sure ylu have a weapon with you)he aint a true boyfriend if he cant trust you

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  • cutegalsly

    jus chuck the hell outta him

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  • Ramit10

    Run away he is f'ed up now imagine what he is going to be like in a year or more

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  • nemoboy108

    ಠ_ಠ

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  • skimskambone

    Run for your life.

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  • Taz.Dru.1410

    RUNNNNNNNNNNN!!!! No matter how playful he may look, when someone "jokingly" puts his hands around your neck it's a danger sign... think about it, when your mother tries to hug you, does she go for the neck? (presumming your mother is not somekind of wrestler or a bit of a loony) :)

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  • mjh1288

    I like to know who my girlfriend is with too but i also trust her and wouldnt get mad or abusive no matter who shes with, and she has alotta guy friends but i know them real well too. He went way overboard with you, you should end it.

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  • beautifulMiracle

    gtfo

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  • Get out now!!! Warn other girls about this guy. He is either a dangerous asshole, or just an asshole - likely the former - but either way, get out.

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  • combatgal856

    Yeah he is ready to control you. By asking who you are with he is not allowing you to have your freedom and therefore can esculate into abuse. Try not to fall for him, find someone else because once you 'love' him it is difficult to get out.

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  • rehanne

    its quite scary that someone can be that controlling after such a short amount of time, its not normal, you should end the relationship before something really bad happens.

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