Hi OP. I'm very busy right now so forgive me if I'm rambling or repetitive I don't have time to edit this.
"No hope to find a decent guy then, right? Just assume all guys who are nice or civil to to me just want sex? That's so depressing. "
That shouldn't be depressing, it should be empowering.
And no I didn't mean that's ALL they want. Good guys also want to get to know you and hope you're an awesome girl to be in a relationship with but sex is still a major reason they're after you and that's the way it should be.
Now you know you get your pick of the litter and if a guy is flirty with you he wants to fuck ;)
Why else would a complete stranger start talking to you and making an effort?
He doesn't even know you, for all he knows you could be a serial killer so of course it's sex he's interested in :)
Let's be honest the difference between one stranger guy you like and another stranger guy you don't like before you really chat them much is often how they look. That's sexual attraction.
Guys can't help being very sexual creatures we're loaded with testosterone so we literally think about sex ALL the time. Like once every 5 to 20 seconds. I'd guess each guy is different but you get the idea. When we see a girl in public that's cute we're instantly imagining fucking them or them sucking our dick. That might sound crazy to you but it's true. In fact it's so common to us it's normal so it doesn't drive us crazy.
Just because a guy wants to fuck you doesn't mean he's a bad guy it means he's attracted to you so it's a compliment. Not all guys are sleazy or low class about how they go about letting you know. If a guy either takes his time getting to know before trying to fuck you or is at least fun and flirty with you and you like it then I'd say there's nothing wrong about that.
It's unwanted sexual suggestive content that is the real problem here, I doubt you'd have a problem with a guy you really were attracted to and wanted to fuck?
You remind me of a young teenage girl who hasn't really learned much about sex yet?
SOME exceptions to the case:
When people are young for example in high school/teenage etc. It is possible that some of your male friends aren't trying to screw you. The reason why this is, is because a young person's time and energy isn't very important as they have no career, no obligations (no mortgage, no car payments, etc.) AND young people don't really yet know how to date well or go after what they want and they often lack confidence. Also young people tend to hang out in groups more than older people because they haven't really established their lives yet. That's often why people flock together: excessive time and lack of knowing how to get what they want/lack of confidence.
When I was younger I had lots of guy friends and girl buddies. Well, as we got older almost ALL of my girl buddies admitted to me that they wanted to have sex with me and some wouldn't shut up so after many months I finally gave in and tried the FWB thing with them.
"Makes me kind of wish I was a lesbian, but though I don't let on (at least consciously), I *do* like d*ck."
LOL. Nah. Just know what guys really want :
"Bad" guys just want to fuck or get their dicks sucked and will lie/do anything to get it and cheat on you.
"Good" guys want to fuck, get their dicks sucked and hope you're a great girl for a relationship and will be honest about it and won't cheat on you.
Btw, even if you tell a guy you've got a boyfriend and they pretend they're cool with it cause "I'm only interested in you as a friend" is generally BS. It means that guy is probably going to wait in the grass (like a snake) and pounce on you once you breakup with your bf or he cheats on you and you're feeling vulnerable ;)
And.. Just to let you know, it works for girls also :
When I was younger and was starting to meet girls at clubs, bars, etc.. I was often very polite and I didn't want to seem like I was out for a screw (because I wasn't) so I'd have good conversation with a girl I'd often say something like "Hey, I'm glad we met :) You and I have a lot in common, I think we're going to be great friends"
You know what almost all the girls would say back ?
"FRIENDS!? FUCK THAT! I'VE GOT ENOUGH FRIENDS, I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU!"
LOL.
Or they'd say something a little more polite but meant the same thing: they wanted sex and a relationship or just sex.
I quickly learned people are primarily interested in sex on both ends of the gender and that's what they spend their time going after.
Why shouldn't they?
Adults are busy people. We work, we have family obligations, we already have lots of friends.
When single we're missing a mate so that's the focus of our 'free time'.
It makes a lot of sense. I thought about what you were saying outside of the situation and analyzed if I was really doing that, or considering that.
The fact of the matter is, a few times I was attracted to the person so it was highly disappointing when they sent the pic. If he sends it so soon without any asking for it, I am led to believe those guys are then vain, presumptuous or both/more, but either way that's a quality that's a deal-breaker if you ever want to have sex with me. You need an invitation from me before doing that, and if you get it, you're in for a great time.
If I want sex, I know how to get it. I take it straight past the d*ck pic stage into IRL introductions to the d. In most pics I've seen the real thing is more impressive than the picture, and if I were a guy, I'd never send a picture of mine. Why do guys think a pic of that will turn us on anyway? Most of the time if it's out I'm not making eye contact with it anyway, and even when I'm up close and personal I wouldn't do so because, without going into too much detail, staring too long would make me dizzy. I don't even think I'd be able to match a d*ck with a face even if I've seen both in person before. It's kind of like getting sent a picture of your elbow. Who cares?
I like a sexy body overall, and a handsome face. I'm not thinking about that (or any one) body part by itself when I'm fantasizing about a hot guy - I'm thinking about how it feels inside me & what he's doing with it. But he's never going to get there if he jumps the gun before I clearly request it.
Is it normal for men you just met to text pictures of their privates?
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Hi OP. I'm very busy right now so forgive me if I'm rambling or repetitive I don't have time to edit this.
"No hope to find a decent guy then, right? Just assume all guys who are nice or civil to to me just want sex? That's so depressing. "
That shouldn't be depressing, it should be empowering.
And no I didn't mean that's ALL they want. Good guys also want to get to know you and hope you're an awesome girl to be in a relationship with but sex is still a major reason they're after you and that's the way it should be.
Now you know you get your pick of the litter and if a guy is flirty with you he wants to fuck ;)
Why else would a complete stranger start talking to you and making an effort?
He doesn't even know you, for all he knows you could be a serial killer so of course it's sex he's interested in :)
Let's be honest the difference between one stranger guy you like and another stranger guy you don't like before you really chat them much is often how they look. That's sexual attraction.
Guys can't help being very sexual creatures we're loaded with testosterone so we literally think about sex ALL the time. Like once every 5 to 20 seconds. I'd guess each guy is different but you get the idea. When we see a girl in public that's cute we're instantly imagining fucking them or them sucking our dick. That might sound crazy to you but it's true. In fact it's so common to us it's normal so it doesn't drive us crazy.
Just because a guy wants to fuck you doesn't mean he's a bad guy it means he's attracted to you so it's a compliment. Not all guys are sleazy or low class about how they go about letting you know. If a guy either takes his time getting to know before trying to fuck you or is at least fun and flirty with you and you like it then I'd say there's nothing wrong about that.
It's unwanted sexual suggestive content that is the real problem here, I doubt you'd have a problem with a guy you really were attracted to and wanted to fuck?
You remind me of a young teenage girl who hasn't really learned much about sex yet?
SOME exceptions to the case:
When people are young for example in high school/teenage etc. It is possible that some of your male friends aren't trying to screw you. The reason why this is, is because a young person's time and energy isn't very important as they have no career, no obligations (no mortgage, no car payments, etc.) AND young people don't really yet know how to date well or go after what they want and they often lack confidence. Also young people tend to hang out in groups more than older people because they haven't really established their lives yet. That's often why people flock together: excessive time and lack of knowing how to get what they want/lack of confidence.
When I was younger I had lots of guy friends and girl buddies. Well, as we got older almost ALL of my girl buddies admitted to me that they wanted to have sex with me and some wouldn't shut up so after many months I finally gave in and tried the FWB thing with them.
"Makes me kind of wish I was a lesbian, but though I don't let on (at least consciously), I *do* like d*ck."
LOL. Nah. Just know what guys really want :
"Bad" guys just want to fuck or get their dicks sucked and will lie/do anything to get it and cheat on you.
"Good" guys want to fuck, get their dicks sucked and hope you're a great girl for a relationship and will be honest about it and won't cheat on you.
Btw, even if you tell a guy you've got a boyfriend and they pretend they're cool with it cause "I'm only interested in you as a friend" is generally BS. It means that guy is probably going to wait in the grass (like a snake) and pounce on you once you breakup with your bf or he cheats on you and you're feeling vulnerable ;)
And.. Just to let you know, it works for girls also :
When I was younger and was starting to meet girls at clubs, bars, etc.. I was often very polite and I didn't want to seem like I was out for a screw (because I wasn't) so I'd have good conversation with a girl I'd often say something like "Hey, I'm glad we met :) You and I have a lot in common, I think we're going to be great friends"
You know what almost all the girls would say back ?
"FRIENDS!? FUCK THAT! I'VE GOT ENOUGH FRIENDS, I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU!"
LOL.
Or they'd say something a little more polite but meant the same thing: they wanted sex and a relationship or just sex.
I quickly learned people are primarily interested in sex on both ends of the gender and that's what they spend their time going after.
Why shouldn't they?
Adults are busy people. We work, we have family obligations, we already have lots of friends.
When single we're missing a mate so that's the focus of our 'free time'.
It makes perfect sense.
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It makes a lot of sense. I thought about what you were saying outside of the situation and analyzed if I was really doing that, or considering that.
The fact of the matter is, a few times I was attracted to the person so it was highly disappointing when they sent the pic. If he sends it so soon without any asking for it, I am led to believe those guys are then vain, presumptuous or both/more, but either way that's a quality that's a deal-breaker if you ever want to have sex with me. You need an invitation from me before doing that, and if you get it, you're in for a great time.
If I want sex, I know how to get it. I take it straight past the d*ck pic stage into IRL introductions to the d. In most pics I've seen the real thing is more impressive than the picture, and if I were a guy, I'd never send a picture of mine. Why do guys think a pic of that will turn us on anyway? Most of the time if it's out I'm not making eye contact with it anyway, and even when I'm up close and personal I wouldn't do so because, without going into too much detail, staring too long would make me dizzy. I don't even think I'd be able to match a d*ck with a face even if I've seen both in person before. It's kind of like getting sent a picture of your elbow. Who cares?
I like a sexy body overall, and a handsome face. I'm not thinking about that (or any one) body part by itself when I'm fantasizing about a hot guy - I'm thinking about how it feels inside me & what he's doing with it. But he's never going to get there if he jumps the gun before I clearly request it.