First of all, approach this carefully and with love.
If you're in any way accusatory, or demanding answers, he'll probably just switch into defence mode and shut you out.
Take it as something that you want to figure out together. It's not a problem, he hasn't done anything wrong, it's just an issue that you want to work through together. No matter what happens, you'll be ok with it, you just want to talk it through and figure out what's going on so everybody can be happy.
Ok, I don't know whether he's gay, but he's probably confused. If he was drugged and raped (?) that's gonna screw with him a hell of a lot. That could throw a straight guy into questioning his sexuality.
There's also something called homosexual OCD. It's OCD - the doubting disorder - but where someone constantly questions and doubts their sexuality. These people might look up gay porn to "check" if it arouses them. Maybe there's an element of that going on.
So try and stay calm and help him figure it out. The worst thing you can do is to freak out, freak HIM out and start demanding things from him that he's not even sure of himself.
Either he's mostly straight, mostly gay or mostly bi. Either way you'll figure out what to do.
Is it normal for me to think my boyfriend is bi?
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First of all, approach this carefully and with love.
If you're in any way accusatory, or demanding answers, he'll probably just switch into defence mode and shut you out.
Take it as something that you want to figure out together. It's not a problem, he hasn't done anything wrong, it's just an issue that you want to work through together. No matter what happens, you'll be ok with it, you just want to talk it through and figure out what's going on so everybody can be happy.
Ok, I don't know whether he's gay, but he's probably confused. If he was drugged and raped (?) that's gonna screw with him a hell of a lot. That could throw a straight guy into questioning his sexuality.
There's also something called homosexual OCD. It's OCD - the doubting disorder - but where someone constantly questions and doubts their sexuality. These people might look up gay porn to "check" if it arouses them. Maybe there's an element of that going on.
So try and stay calm and help him figure it out. The worst thing you can do is to freak out, freak HIM out and start demanding things from him that he's not even sure of himself.
Either he's mostly straight, mostly gay or mostly bi. Either way you'll figure out what to do.