Is it normal for me to subconsciously obsess over my crush

71% Normal
13 Comments

I have a crush. We will call him Red, because of his red hair. Around four years ago was when I began to develop feelings for this boy (who is a grade above me) it’s gotten to the point where I find myself deliberately hanging out in places where he frequents at the school. I even made friends with his friends in an effort to get him to talk to me. Now this wasn’t one sided at one Point, red and I would talk for hours on end, we have so much in common!!! But texts got fewer, and the glances in the hallway eventually stopped all together. He just stopped....but I didn’t, I found out who is best friend is, we’ll call him....Momma. I started talking to momma over summer not knowing that he was reds best friend, and slowly he helped me get over a breakup, I think of momma as somebody I can confide in. When he found out I had a crush on his best friend he was ecstatic, but eventually I stopped talking to momma just like I stopped talking to red. Sometimes I’ll post some sad stuff and he’ll text me when he sees it always asking if I’m okay, even if I say “it’s not a big deal” he presses and presses until I tell him the truth. Momma always makes me feel better.

Sometimes I find myself looking to see if he’s around, stealing glances at him and red. But I feel like I’m getting alittle obsessed, when I see red with the girl he likes it makes me so jealous and angry.

Momma is hung up on a girl he dated, he fell hard (he’s somebody who never falls) I think I....I think I like them both.

But...is it normal for me to obesess so much?

Voting Results
71% Normal
Based on 21 votes (15 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 13 )
  • TheOishome
    5 years ago

    Yeah I think it is you just got the feels, love is a strong ass force

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
      -
    • Ellenna
      5 years ago

      This sounds more like adolescent infatuation, rather than love

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
  • MrToxic
    5 years ago

    You might benefit from speaking to a professional about your attachment issues

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • Sylver
      5 years ago

      It’s what I do ya know? I never get attached to family it’s always somebody outside my family life, rather it’s a good friend or somebody that I become attached to because of romantic or sexual reasons.

      But here’s the thing. It’s never both. I can be sexually attracted to somebody and not have any romantic interest. But if I grow romantically attached to somebody then it’s different, I want to be around them constantly but I forcablly have to remove myself in fear of being called annoying or a stalker. If I get attached and I Catch it then I can keep myself away, but sometimes I don’t catch it.

      This behavior isn’t normal, I’ve noticed this, it’s very not normal. I feel like a psychopath..

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    i did this when i used to have crushes. i am in a situation where having a crush is almost impossible unless i find a crush in a show or movie, but when i did have a crush they were always in the back of my mind at the least.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • thecreeperiswatching
    5 years ago

    Sounds a bit like borderline personality disorder. I have it. I texted a girl, or texted other people about her, months after she stopped talking to me. I still go back and find myself spending an excessive amount of time internet-stalking old crushes.

    Do you also switch between placing all the blame on yourself and placing all the blame on him?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Sylver
      5 years ago

      Yea, it’s like that. Originally I texted red for months and then I stared talking to momma...and now our texts are getting fewer and fewer. Maybe a week, days in between. Red hasn’t shown any interest in continuing a friendship with me, but ever sense momma and I got really close it’s like I see him everywhere, it looks like I’m stalking him but sometimes he’s just there! I never do it on purpose.

      Edit: yea sometimes I feel like it’s my fault and I did something wrong while other times I feel like he played me and it’s his fault

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • thecreeperiswatching
        5 years ago

        God I hate it when that happens.

        Does it impact how you view other people? Do you ever get paranoid that he’s telling other people?

        Do you have this unshakeable feeling that he wants you out of his life by any means necessary?

        Also, dissociation is another symptom: things seem less real, like you’re in a work of fiction.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • Sylver
          5 years ago

          ...yes

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          1
          1
            -
          • thecreeperiswatching
            5 years ago

            Do you ever fantasize about hurting yourself in some way? Whether out of unbearable loneliness or a passive-aggressive rage.

            Do you ever feel lost or empty, kind of like something’s “missing?” Like having trouble making decisions, because you’ve somehow forgotten which choice you prefer.

            And the rage. Oh the rage. It’s intoxicating, because for once in your life, you feel rational. Because for once in your life, you feel like you have the ability to stop being such a reactive doormat. You ever feel that?

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • Sylver
              5 years ago

              😒

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • TS
    5 years ago

    This is like the plot of an anime for girls

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Sylver
      5 years ago

      Ik my life is a show

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0