Is it normal for me to stay mad this long and why can't i forgive her?

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It's been over 10 yrs. now and I just can't seem to forgive mom and move on with my life. I've mentioned this story before. Where I been trying to get mom to come visit me for past 11 yrs. and every year she made an excuses. Although, she did call me summer of 2010 asked me about her coming to see me on labor day weekend. I did say yes first. But when I found out about the reuinon, it really hurt me. This time, I turned her down. I won't goto details again. Since than, we have not spoken, written, e-mail or call to eachother. Just because she offered to come visit me, I supposed to forgiver her for all the other years? People keep telling me the life is too short and mom isn't getting any younger. But what about past 10 years when she was young and capable to come visit. At her age, she's doing very well. I think, she can go on for anohter 15-20 yrs.I even started to write my anger down and hurtful things that happen to during my growing up years. I was told, writing down can reduce my anger and stress.I'm on page 16, still have the anger. Why can't i just let this go and move on. Iis it normal for me to stay mad and hurt this long. Any advice? I can take!

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  • steph678
    12 years ago

    Talk to someone about it. I believe it's the only way to truly heal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    it sounds like you need her more than she needs you. shift that dynamic, put more stuff in your life so you dont think about it. i predict she will come to you when she needs you more then you can make up yr mind how you feel

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    ^ I agree with Steph678

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  • imnosmellycole
    12 years ago

    Hang on there dude. I feel bad now :$

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  • slenderella
    12 years ago

    It's hard to be a child who feels rejected by their own mom.
    I think it's important for you to get to the point where you can let the hurt and anger go, FOR YOUR OWN SAKE.
    One thing that took me the longest time to learn is that we all have areas of brokenness, our parents included. Because she didn't visit doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

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  • xoxo29
    12 years ago

    Why can't you visit her?

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    • Leela
      12 years ago

      I use to drive even with my physically disable. During my driving years, I did go see my family practually every other week and every occasions. Now, with medcial issues gotten bad due to my disablity. I even had few surgrey since than and now it affecting my driving. So Now, I can't drive anymore. Use power chair to get around.

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