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so yesterday my sister came out to me by showing me a pic of herself and her girlfriend..I was the last in the family to know because of the fact I'm the youngest I guess..I told her it was cool and that she shouldn't have kept it from me..But now she's bringin her girlfriend over to our house tmo and I reaaaally DONT want to meet her..Is this a normal reaction?Also,is it normal that I don't want anyone to know about her being a lesbian?
So, if she brought home a guy, then you would want to meet him? You don't want anyone to know about her being a lesbian?
If you say "yes" then you are HOMOPHOBIC, but because it's not nice to be homophobic, you've told yourself that it's alright, but deep down you disagree with yourself.
You have two choices:
1) Stop being homophobic and accept your sister as she is wholeheartedly - including the special women in her life.
2) Tell your sister that you are not as open-minded as you told her you were.
i think its a normal reaction for ypou to be embarressed its ok for other people to say your a homophobe or overreacting, its not there sister so its easy for them to give an opinion, youll get over it in time im sure and later youll not even bat an eyelid tlleing others, just give it time to sink in
lol I knew this thread was a minefield. Bare witness as I shrewdly step on every single one.
Mando:
Look beyond your blind hate and realize that I wasn't commenting on whether he was right or wrong for not seeing her. My point was to say that he shouldn't be bullied into accepting anyone else's morality or else bare the brunt of slurs and hate filled accusations.
"But it's not a morality"
Anything in this world is a morality. All of it is opinion; nothing you said can be proven beyond doubt. Even the solemn Declaration of Rights of Man and of the Citizen is nothing more than opinion written by men who died shamefully of disease, time, and age.
We, we meaning you, accept the ideas of our day because so many believe in it but a majority doesn't determine truth. There was a time in history when the slavs were looked upon as servile vermin yet today we'd laugh at that notion so the idea that "because loads of people believe this, I should to" is laughable at best.
Again: My point is not to say whether or not he's right for not seeing her but that he should do what HE thinks is right not what YOU and oppressors like you think.
Thanks for your opinions,"some" were actually very helpful (Mando in particular) .I met her gf yesterday and already I feel slightly more at ease,still a long way to go though!It's not so much how I feel about the situation that's bothering me (I'll be going to college next year so hopefully this will broaden my mind) but the reactions of those around me.I'm from Ireland where only 15 years ago it was illegal to be in a homosexual relationship,so people are still pretty narrow minded I guess
I have a lesbian friend who asks everyone (including me) not to make any reference to her partner on Facebook because her partner is a Facebook friend as is her father and while he kind of knows, she doesn't want to rub his face in it.
I like that she respects him enough to hide the most important relationship of her life. But I detest that his attitude makes her hide the most important relationship of her life.
I understand it's very easy for me to preach. But if you care about your sister then you should care about her happiness. While it may be really difficult to see your sister in a way you previously didn't, try to make the effort. And maybe she'll make the effort when you bring home a girl your parents don't approve of.