I agree that it is unnatural for a kid to grow up not having parents who think they are awesome. Even though I grew up in a family that looked perfect from the outside, my family members were very cold and critical. I wanted to kill myself. My 5th grade teacher was wonderful and made me feel special and loved. I cried when she decided to get married and move away. I got married young to escape. I thought I would feel nurtured by the new family, but you know what? They were messed up in their own ways. Your life will not improve until you build your own paradise. You are worth it. Plan to get your education some way in a career where you can get independent. Get your own place and take up a hobby and make friends with people who value you. Don't forget you need to have something to offer too. You won't be attractive if you continue to focus on a past that you can't help. You only have control of planning for a better future. Try to get any financial help to go to school that you can get and just spend as much time as you can stand. You can't change them. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, but they were born with a personality that makes terrible parents for certain other personalities. My brother, the first born smart one, did fine with my parents. Go figure. Mom should have had 2 sons, but instead she had 1 son and 3 daughters. Not a good match for her personality. I rarely see the family members I don't enjoy. They will never understand why I avoid them, but I don't need them now ... I needed them then!
IIN for me to not talk to ANYONE anymore after going through this?
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I agree that it is unnatural for a kid to grow up not having parents who think they are awesome. Even though I grew up in a family that looked perfect from the outside, my family members were very cold and critical. I wanted to kill myself. My 5th grade teacher was wonderful and made me feel special and loved. I cried when she decided to get married and move away. I got married young to escape. I thought I would feel nurtured by the new family, but you know what? They were messed up in their own ways. Your life will not improve until you build your own paradise. You are worth it. Plan to get your education some way in a career where you can get independent. Get your own place and take up a hobby and make friends with people who value you. Don't forget you need to have something to offer too. You won't be attractive if you continue to focus on a past that you can't help. You only have control of planning for a better future. Try to get any financial help to go to school that you can get and just spend as much time as you can stand. You can't change them. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, but they were born with a personality that makes terrible parents for certain other personalities. My brother, the first born smart one, did fine with my parents. Go figure. Mom should have had 2 sons, but instead she had 1 son and 3 daughters. Not a good match for her personality. I rarely see the family members I don't enjoy. They will never understand why I avoid them, but I don't need them now ... I needed them then!