I've known women who hated or feared men due to bad experiences. People called them sexist.
I knew Black people who disliked Hispanic people with a passion because of bad experiences. People called them racist.
I knew older people that couldn't stand younger people due to bad experiences. They were called ageist.
Is it wrong to label an entire group based on bad experiences? Yes.
However, if all you ever experience from one group is awful shit even after you try to be nice over and over again, it's sort of understandable.
All the people I listed above are allowed to feel the way they feel. You're allowed to feel the way you do too. It's a gray area that most people aren't going to understand and being openly vocal about it will only lead to some of the consequences they received.
You're may have to move to another place with a lower Indian population. If you can't at the moment you'll have to just grit your teeth and deal with your current situation. I do suggest that you try not to label the entire population of Indian men as bad if you grit your teeth and deal. You could wind up becoming a bitter person that no one wants to deal with just like the people I mentioned above. Then again the people I mentioned were all from my hometown, a ghetto area, so feel free to take what I say with a grain of salt.
This. I've had bad experience after bad experience and I am an extremely nice, friendly, patient person who can get along with almost anyone. I'm not going to get along with someone who harasses me, scares me, goes out of their way to undermine me, or someone who acts like I'm stupid because I'm a woman.
I get what you're saying about not labeling the entire demographic but it is EXTEREMLY difficult to do when I have personally met at least over 30 Indian men, like met face to face on a first name basis, and then several more at stores and other places and every single one of them has been awful.
I am always nice and patient and to be viewed as stupid because I'm tolerating their sexist, hateful behavior is infuriating.
I also don't think it should be my responsibility to move from my hometown that my family has been a staple in for 90 years because Indians move to the ghetto 20 minutes away and decide they don't want to shop at the stores in their town so they drive to mine and are assholes to everyone around them.
It really is hard trying not to label an entire demographic. I kind of have a hard time with that right now when it comes to mentally ill people. Most of the people that have mooched off me, screwed me over, stole from me, got violent, or were just plain assholes had some sort of mental illness. They'd literally use it as an excuse for the bad things they did. I learned how to sense crazy from a person just from a simple face to face convo and I generally try to stay away from those people now. Ghetto areas are full of these people and it's one of the many reasons I don't even live in my own house anymore. My parents live in it still so I haven't sold the place yet. I just live with my boyfriend now.
If they keep populating your town and have no intention of going away, and it's financially possible for you, moving might be the best option. Your town sounds like the kind of town that was my home town: nice until certain people moved in.
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I've known women who hated or feared men due to bad experiences. People called them sexist.
I knew Black people who disliked Hispanic people with a passion because of bad experiences. People called them racist.
I knew older people that couldn't stand younger people due to bad experiences. They were called ageist.
Is it wrong to label an entire group based on bad experiences? Yes.
However, if all you ever experience from one group is awful shit even after you try to be nice over and over again, it's sort of understandable.
All the people I listed above are allowed to feel the way they feel. You're allowed to feel the way you do too. It's a gray area that most people aren't going to understand and being openly vocal about it will only lead to some of the consequences they received.
You're may have to move to another place with a lower Indian population. If you can't at the moment you'll have to just grit your teeth and deal with your current situation. I do suggest that you try not to label the entire population of Indian men as bad if you grit your teeth and deal. You could wind up becoming a bitter person that no one wants to deal with just like the people I mentioned above. Then again the people I mentioned were all from my hometown, a ghetto area, so feel free to take what I say with a grain of salt.
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This. I've had bad experience after bad experience and I am an extremely nice, friendly, patient person who can get along with almost anyone. I'm not going to get along with someone who harasses me, scares me, goes out of their way to undermine me, or someone who acts like I'm stupid because I'm a woman.
I get what you're saying about not labeling the entire demographic but it is EXTEREMLY difficult to do when I have personally met at least over 30 Indian men, like met face to face on a first name basis, and then several more at stores and other places and every single one of them has been awful.
I am always nice and patient and to be viewed as stupid because I'm tolerating their sexist, hateful behavior is infuriating.
I also don't think it should be my responsibility to move from my hometown that my family has been a staple in for 90 years because Indians move to the ghetto 20 minutes away and decide they don't want to shop at the stores in their town so they drive to mine and are assholes to everyone around them.
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It really is hard trying not to label an entire demographic. I kind of have a hard time with that right now when it comes to mentally ill people. Most of the people that have mooched off me, screwed me over, stole from me, got violent, or were just plain assholes had some sort of mental illness. They'd literally use it as an excuse for the bad things they did. I learned how to sense crazy from a person just from a simple face to face convo and I generally try to stay away from those people now. Ghetto areas are full of these people and it's one of the many reasons I don't even live in my own house anymore. My parents live in it still so I haven't sold the place yet. I just live with my boyfriend now.
If they keep populating your town and have no intention of going away, and it's financially possible for you, moving might be the best option. Your town sounds like the kind of town that was my home town: nice until certain people moved in.