I agree that the harassment comes from men of all ethnicities but in my experience Indian men have been WAY worse than any other ethnicity. When it gets to the point that someone tries to follow you home or throws a drink on you or has his friends gang up on you or does something that causes a women to have to ask a complete stranger for help in getting away from a guy it is a serious problem. Those are all things I've experienced specifically with Indian men and no other ethnicity. It gets taken to a level where I'm actually afraid of being physically harmed because I don't want to be hit on at a bar. Just for reference, I'm definitely not asking for it either. I'm not a girl that dresses up to go to a bar because I am not trying to attract attention from men at bars. I typically wear sweatpants, a tshirt or hoodie, and my hair up in a ponytail. I am doing everything I'm capable of to not attract male attention and I have repeatedly been harassed by the one ethnic group.
This doesn't explain the general God awful behavior either. Just like downright hateful and mean and rude behavior. Like slamming a door on my body on purpose, being told I'm stupid and they would fire me if they were my boss, saying I shouldn't work in finance or couldn't make it in finance because I'm a woman, repeatedly lying to my boss to try to get me in trouble, repeatedly refusing to follow my management and instructions because I'm a woman. The multiple times I had been screamed at by Indian men when I worked at Subway after I allegedly made their sandwich wrong after they refused to tell me what they wanted on it. That was several men that did that and it happened to all of my coworkers, not just me. My last grocery store misadventure where an Indian man walked right into me with his cart and then screamed at me in the store, in front of everyone, because he walked into me because he was looking at his phone and not watching where he was going. And I'm not exaggerating when I say screamed either, the man literally raised his voice and screamed at me in the middle of a grocery store because he hit me.
I've met and worked with just as many Indian women as I have men and the women are as sweet as can be so I don't understand the drastic differences I and many others I know have experienced between the genders.
I'm not trying to be a dick but I've worked for international companies and have never had any other ethnicity go out of their way in attempts to undermine me or throw me under the bus to bosses. I've never been hit on or harassed to the extreme levels with any other ethnicity. It's one thing when there's a cultural difference that can be explained but it's totally different when it's harassment to the point that I'm scared to be around a person or I'm afraid to lose my job because someone is actively trying to get me reprimanded. I'm just lucky that my boss understands and knows, like you said, there is a significant difference between work standards so they don't believe the lies that are told. I'm not the only person at my job with this issue either, this is a continuing problem of this team refusing to accept responsibility for mistakes and putting the blame on others and flat out lying.
Is it normal for me to loathe Indian men that have immigrated to American
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I agree that the harassment comes from men of all ethnicities but in my experience Indian men have been WAY worse than any other ethnicity. When it gets to the point that someone tries to follow you home or throws a drink on you or has his friends gang up on you or does something that causes a women to have to ask a complete stranger for help in getting away from a guy it is a serious problem. Those are all things I've experienced specifically with Indian men and no other ethnicity. It gets taken to a level where I'm actually afraid of being physically harmed because I don't want to be hit on at a bar. Just for reference, I'm definitely not asking for it either. I'm not a girl that dresses up to go to a bar because I am not trying to attract attention from men at bars. I typically wear sweatpants, a tshirt or hoodie, and my hair up in a ponytail. I am doing everything I'm capable of to not attract male attention and I have repeatedly been harassed by the one ethnic group.
This doesn't explain the general God awful behavior either. Just like downright hateful and mean and rude behavior. Like slamming a door on my body on purpose, being told I'm stupid and they would fire me if they were my boss, saying I shouldn't work in finance or couldn't make it in finance because I'm a woman, repeatedly lying to my boss to try to get me in trouble, repeatedly refusing to follow my management and instructions because I'm a woman. The multiple times I had been screamed at by Indian men when I worked at Subway after I allegedly made their sandwich wrong after they refused to tell me what they wanted on it. That was several men that did that and it happened to all of my coworkers, not just me. My last grocery store misadventure where an Indian man walked right into me with his cart and then screamed at me in the store, in front of everyone, because he walked into me because he was looking at his phone and not watching where he was going. And I'm not exaggerating when I say screamed either, the man literally raised his voice and screamed at me in the middle of a grocery store because he hit me.
I've met and worked with just as many Indian women as I have men and the women are as sweet as can be so I don't understand the drastic differences I and many others I know have experienced between the genders.
I'm not trying to be a dick but I've worked for international companies and have never had any other ethnicity go out of their way in attempts to undermine me or throw me under the bus to bosses. I've never been hit on or harassed to the extreme levels with any other ethnicity. It's one thing when there's a cultural difference that can be explained but it's totally different when it's harassment to the point that I'm scared to be around a person or I'm afraid to lose my job because someone is actively trying to get me reprimanded. I'm just lucky that my boss understands and knows, like you said, there is a significant difference between work standards so they don't believe the lies that are told. I'm not the only person at my job with this issue either, this is a continuing problem of this team refusing to accept responsibility for mistakes and putting the blame on others and flat out lying.