Is it normal for me to let a boy take advantage of me like this . ?

I'm a Junior in high school, i only have two friends, im not a nerd or anything. Im just the type of person who keeps my circle tight because im not down for the drama. lol. anyways but I met this boy on my way home from school ( i already knew who he was but i never talked to him till that day), we talked for a little bit than he asked for my number, i gave it to him ( i didnt think he would actually call me, because he was one of the dudes every girl in school wanted to talk to ), but surprisely he texted me that day and we started talking from there. Talking to him made me gain some self confidence. He made me so happy. anyways my friends warned me about him, they told me dont fall for him, he messed with alot of girls in school and he even got like 3 girls in school pregnant. But i didnt listened to them because he kept telling me what i wanted to hear so i kept falling for him. One day he told me to come over his house after school, (i did). when i got there we watched a movie. During the movie he tried to have sex with me so i told him no becsuse it was our first time chilling alone. so he said cool he respected that ( i thought he was going to stop talking to me after that day but he didnt). we still talked on the phone, said hi to each other in school, ect. Couple of weeks later he invited me to his house again, We chilled ,watched a movie, play fight. & it lead to us kissingand stuff he asked me can we do it i told him no because im a virgin and im not ready to lose it. so he got all emotional and started to tell me Im WIFEY im going to be around for a long time dont worry about what people had to say about it.( we talked for one hour before i finally lost it to him) after we did it he called me for 2 or 3 days than he stopped talking to me. everytime we saw each other he'll just look at me. sometimes i'll go home and cry all day and night. that really broke my heart. Like a month later he called me like he necer stopped talking to me or nothing. so i bad to ask him why did he do that to me ? he came up with all kinds of excuses i couldnt help but take him back ( i liked him too much , matter of fact i still like). so we were back together and everything was going smooth untill we went and had sex again & it was just a repeat of everything that happened the first time. I was heart broken AGAINNN. Now he want me back again but i rather not accept him. he'd put through soo much pain. Im crying as im writting. I cant even put my feelings into words SMH

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Comments ( 19 )
  • fox

    That's not ok. You have feelings because you lost your virginity. Reread what you have written and pretend you are a third party, that someone else is telling you that. What would you tell them? Drop him. Ignore him. He is pathetic for doing that to you and tricking you. I know it seems like the end of the world now but Trust Me you will not be thinking / talking about him or anyone else in your school in a few years. !!! Trust me. You will meet soooo many other ppl and have alot more relationships. Just try to see it that way. I remember being in school thinking I lived a guy or what not. You don't! And it's not the end of the world. You'll never care about this and you'll move on. But don't talk to that guy. He's given you enough grief and is scum.

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  • MegaDerp

    He's a user it's common in alot of people u should defiantly not talk him no more

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  • Bman

    He's a jackass who took something you can never get back. His only reason for taking was for sex but don't worry he sounds like a player so he will grow old and die alone. Move on and forget about him.

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  • southernbarbie16

    He's just Using you for sex. Don't take him back cause it's not fair for you to be treated like this

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  • gowila

    Poor girl. Look on the bright side, you have learned a great lesson. I hope you don't let this happen again. It's people like him who kill it for the nice guys

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  • kat2422

    It's normal, every girl thinks it won't happen them and it usually does to at least half. What isn't normal is him. He will continue to do this to every girl he sticks his dick into. Until some girl with confidence and a sense of self worth let's him know what a piece of shit he is and he is just a child. A boy. Let that girl b u. U don't have to tell him he's a piece of shit or a sad little boy, it actually might b more effective to just smile and say " I'm over that, if u ever want to grow up and apologize...don't bother bc I will have forgotten u". Let him know u deserve better, tell him. I wouldn't evn ask why. I am going through something similar. I'm 26 and never ever have let a guy treat me like this. It's nice to think things will b different...they won't. U deserve better. It will b hard, just tell urself every time u start to get sad "I'm a person, I will not allow anyone to break me" start hanging out with friends and once ur self confidence has come back not only will he b a chapter, or the love that never learned, but u won't b thinking about it bc confidence is not only sexy but makes one stronger. U will prbly already have a new bf u appreciates u, not that u need one. I'm sorry u r going through this. B strong he will continue to hurt u.

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  • livingMy_Life

    Omg thank you guys soo much. but i've been ignoring his phone calls and text msqs lately. im really trying to forget about my past and focus more on my future (which is my school ). Once again thank you guys so much :)

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  • I agree with the other comments. That's really sad and of course you know he's using you just don't let him get the satisfaction. Just ignore him and don't talk to him or have sex with him anymore. And you'll find someone who deserves you for who you are and who will love you and not do that to you best of luck :)

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  • runnergirl

    I'm so sorry that happened to you, Sweetie! How painful. However many good qualities he may have, he is not being respectful to you. Please respect yourself enough to walk away for good and expect better. Also, losing your virginity is not then end! You are still special with a lot to give and the right guy will see that.

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  • He's an asshole and all, but you're an idiot to fall for that

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  • frankiestrange

    I think it's time you stood up to him. It's obvious that you really like him a lot, but honestly, he sounds like a complete asshole. You're so much better than that! You sound like a lovely girl, you deserve so much better than him, honestly. :)

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  • Dagan

    He is no man at all. Don't your want a real man at some point? My wife and I dated 3 1/2 years before getting married where we 'lost it' to each other. That was almost 26 years ago. I smile everyday when i think of her. You don't need to 'play around' before you get married. It only causes heartache. My son is 22 with a 20 year old girlfriend and have been fating for 7 years. They get flack from friends because they cannot believe they have never slept together. Don't let the world dictate that you give in to anyone. You may think I am an idiot for believing that my son has not had sex. I know my son. if he brings up that he hasn't... I mean why bring it up if it's not true and besides I waited 3 1/2 years so I know it can be done.

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  • Bman

    Talking**

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  • livingMy_Life

    awwww that is sooo sweet. especially hearing it from a quy :)

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  • supaflyafro

    hes a dickfaced norny bastard. he just wanted sex and truly doesnt care about u. im a guy and i care for a girl so much dat i think sex would ruin everything and the whole experience

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  • livingMy_Life

    idiot ? noo, i just have feelings like every other girl.

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  • Paul

    Well, if he is using you for sex, you can use him for the same thing, too, and it will be a mutually beneficial arrangement.

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  • fox

    Once you leave highschool you won't ever think about it or the ppl in it . College is way better and is where you grow and meet all new friends and guys.

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  • pierre3167

    That was me... Sorry bout that. Hey, want to have sex?

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