As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.
Is it normal for me to have resentment toward my pregnant girlfriend?
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As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.