I don't know that my resentment is justified, that's why I ask the question here. I only know how the situation makes me feel, and yes I absolutely knew she had full control.
In a relationship there are many things you can't control from your partner, that's how they work. But in things you can't control, you compromise.. correct? ESPecially about important matters. Maturely making a decision together as a couple as we did, then her deciding to change her mind.. ignore how I feel and telling me to fu*k off doesn't exactly setup a good scenario for me putting trust in her again. At least that's the way I feel about it.
As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.
Look don't feel bad because the damage that your baby is going to do to her body is going to make her resent the hell out of you n just call it payback and move on with the situation🍼
Is it normal for me to have resentment toward my pregnant girlfriend?
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I don't know that my resentment is justified, that's why I ask the question here. I only know how the situation makes me feel, and yes I absolutely knew she had full control.
In a relationship there are many things you can't control from your partner, that's how they work. But in things you can't control, you compromise.. correct? ESPecially about important matters. Maturely making a decision together as a couple as we did, then her deciding to change her mind.. ignore how I feel and telling me to fu*k off doesn't exactly setup a good scenario for me putting trust in her again. At least that's the way I feel about it.
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As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.
Look don't feel bad because the damage that your baby is going to do to her body is going to make her resent the hell out of you n just call it payback and move on with the situation🍼
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lol probably the best answer he's going to get
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Believe me....😌