You can't have it all...why did you happily have unprotected sex yet are all surprised and upset that the exact normal outcome of sex has happened?
You're trying to blame it on her? She said pregnancy is unlikely? So fucking what? Where is your responsibility in this? What research did you do?
Agreeing to get an abortion is nothing because it's very different when it actually happens to you. You should've done more to prevent the pregnancy. Funny how you whine about her side but you didn't care enough to protect yourself. You should be resenting that decision instead of her. You could've prevented this but you chose not to and now you want to put all the blame on her. Grow up.
typical adult figure judging and scolding someone for having ten seconds of orgasm pleasure. The girlfriends the one who's in the wrong, not the poster.
Yes, because I'm sure if men got pregnant no man ever would go back on his decision to abort. In fact, no men even care at all when women abort their child. No man ever has backed out of a contract or handshake. Men always pay their debts. Women really need to step it up in this regard.
I hope you're just being a bitch now because you are lumping all the men into one basket and it's simply not true. I agreed with everything you wrote until this post. I could lump all women into the cold, lying, manipulating, controlling, cheating, psycho basket, but that is simply not true as well.
His thoughts and reasons for being upset are completely off base. My moto is if you can't do the time, then don't do the crime, but you can't lump all men together.
Yes, I was being sarcastic and dramatic. I've seen way too many posts like this where a guy rails on a girl for not having an abortion like it's just this matter-of-fact thing, clueless to the financial, physical and hormonal changes that happen. Not to mention spiritual. It's easy for someone who can't even get pregnant to say they'd definitely abort. Jesus Christ, you'd be no different from women, some of whom could do it and some who wouldn't.
Just pointing out that men reneg on contracts all the time on far lesser matters than an expensive, invasive and morally questionable (for many) procedure. Where do you guys get the grounds to judge or to be so self righteous?
Yeh... she must have sat on it without his consent and got herself pregnant. Wake up it's 2017 both of them had sex so both of them are responsible for anything that comes from that
And yet we as women have 100% control over the descision. It's not fair at all and if you can't admit that as a woman you are either supremely stupid or you are delusional.
I'm not putting all the blame on her at all, I totally blame myself. I'm very disappointed in letting my guard down and being so irresponsible, not to mention I plan on being in my child's life 1000%. The sense of resentment comes from having no input in a very important matter, that we both came to a decision on. I'm not upset about the pregnancy, had it been totally random I would of been ok with it. I'm bothered by the decision making process.
Why do you think your resentment is justified when you knew full well you can't force her to abort? You knew she had full control over that and could change her mind at any time. You only have yourself to blame and you have to acknowledge it and get over it. You were fine with playing and taking the chance but now that it's time to pay you want to be upset over stuff you knew could happen all along?
Resentment is very much justified. The bish tricked him into getting her pregnant. She lied to him on multiple occasions and knew full well what she was doing the entire time.
OP, look after the child she has to the best of your ability but for the love God, do NOT marry this woman. She will likely divorce you and take everything you have, she's a proven liar and a manipulative, self absorbed bish. I pray for your child.
I don't know that my resentment is justified, that's why I ask the question here. I only know how the situation makes me feel, and yes I absolutely knew she had full control.
In a relationship there are many things you can't control from your partner, that's how they work. But in things you can't control, you compromise.. correct? ESPecially about important matters. Maturely making a decision together as a couple as we did, then her deciding to change her mind.. ignore how I feel and telling me to fu*k off doesn't exactly setup a good scenario for me putting trust in her again. At least that's the way I feel about it.
As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.
Look don't feel bad because the damage that your baby is going to do to her body is going to make her resent the hell out of you n just call it payback and move on with the situation🍼
Thing is though, it's easy to say "yeh I'll get an abortion if I get pregnant " when your not pregnant, for a girl to feel a baby growing inside of her. Any loving girl would not be able to go through with it unless there was no other alternative. It's a good trait about her, surely you don't want a cold girl that sees it as nothing? She is probably devastated too and thinks her worlds over, especially if she feels alone or unsupported.hormones in tow but I know from experience, it's just not something a girl can do. When there are other options. We all make mistakes, all you can do now is do your best to support her, don't go and get engaged or anything just because she's pregnant. Wait and see if she's the one or rebuild your relationship if you feel it's lost. Plenty of people bring up a child apart or together, I'm just saying don't bring up marriage just because it's what you think you should do for babies sake. You both have enough on your plate right now
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You can't have it all...why did you happily have unprotected sex yet are all surprised and upset that the exact normal outcome of sex has happened?
You're trying to blame it on her? She said pregnancy is unlikely? So fucking what? Where is your responsibility in this? What research did you do?
Agreeing to get an abortion is nothing because it's very different when it actually happens to you. You should've done more to prevent the pregnancy. Funny how you whine about her side but you didn't care enough to protect yourself. You should be resenting that decision instead of her. You could've prevented this but you chose not to and now you want to put all the blame on her. Grow up.
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typical adult figure judging and scolding someone for having ten seconds of orgasm pleasure. The girlfriends the one who's in the wrong, not the poster.
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Yes, because I'm sure if men got pregnant no man ever would go back on his decision to abort. In fact, no men even care at all when women abort their child. No man ever has backed out of a contract or handshake. Men always pay their debts. Women really need to step it up in this regard.
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I hope you're just being a bitch now because you are lumping all the men into one basket and it's simply not true. I agreed with everything you wrote until this post. I could lump all women into the cold, lying, manipulating, controlling, cheating, psycho basket, but that is simply not true as well.
His thoughts and reasons for being upset are completely off base. My moto is if you can't do the time, then don't do the crime, but you can't lump all men together.
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I hope so because although I'm not men's biggest fan, they are not all douche bags.
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Yes, I was being sarcastic and dramatic. I've seen way too many posts like this where a guy rails on a girl for not having an abortion like it's just this matter-of-fact thing, clueless to the financial, physical and hormonal changes that happen. Not to mention spiritual. It's easy for someone who can't even get pregnant to say they'd definitely abort. Jesus Christ, you'd be no different from women, some of whom could do it and some who wouldn't.
Just pointing out that men reneg on contracts all the time on far lesser matters than an expensive, invasive and morally questionable (for many) procedure. Where do you guys get the grounds to judge or to be so self righteous?
Yeh... she must have sat on it without his consent and got herself pregnant. Wake up it's 2017 both of them had sex so both of them are responsible for anything that comes from that
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And yet we as women have 100% control over the descision. It's not fair at all and if you can't admit that as a woman you are either supremely stupid or you are delusional.
I'm not putting all the blame on her at all, I totally blame myself. I'm very disappointed in letting my guard down and being so irresponsible, not to mention I plan on being in my child's life 1000%. The sense of resentment comes from having no input in a very important matter, that we both came to a decision on. I'm not upset about the pregnancy, had it been totally random I would of been ok with it. I'm bothered by the decision making process.
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Why do you think your resentment is justified when you knew full well you can't force her to abort? You knew she had full control over that and could change her mind at any time. You only have yourself to blame and you have to acknowledge it and get over it. You were fine with playing and taking the chance but now that it's time to pay you want to be upset over stuff you knew could happen all along?
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Resentment is very much justified. The bish tricked him into getting her pregnant. She lied to him on multiple occasions and knew full well what she was doing the entire time.
OP, look after the child she has to the best of your ability but for the love God, do NOT marry this woman. She will likely divorce you and take everything you have, she's a proven liar and a manipulative, self absorbed bish. I pray for your child.
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"tricked him into getting her pregnant."
Uh, no. She straight up told him she wasn't on birth control.
He kept fucking her without protection even AFTER they had a pregnancy scare.
"She lied to him on multiple occasions and knew full well what she was doing the entire time."
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From OP: "she told me she didn't need me and could do it without me, pretty much telling me to f*ck off."
Yeah, really sounds like a girl trying to trap a guy. Not.
I don't know that my resentment is justified, that's why I ask the question here. I only know how the situation makes me feel, and yes I absolutely knew she had full control.
In a relationship there are many things you can't control from your partner, that's how they work. But in things you can't control, you compromise.. correct? ESPecially about important matters. Maturely making a decision together as a couple as we did, then her deciding to change her mind.. ignore how I feel and telling me to fu*k off doesn't exactly setup a good scenario for me putting trust in her again. At least that's the way I feel about it.
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As a man you know you can't control this though. Talking about an abortion is one thing but when pregnancy actually happens to you, it's more complex. You keep saying the trust thing but you need to look at it as any other major thing where you really don't know for sure how you'll act until it happens to you. It's easy to SAY you'd do this or that but when it comes down to it, you might act in a completely different way and this is true for many kinds of life events. You just never know. Your girlfriend was probably not being dishonest when she said she'd abort, and at the same time she couldn't possibly know how she'd actually react if she was in that spot so she said what she believed at the time and once it happened to her, things changed as they normally do. Stop thinking of her as being untrustworthy because she's probably not. You've never thought you'd do one thing but when the situation presented itself you did another? Have some empathy and cut her some slack. I'm sure you'd excuse yourself if you reacted differently than you expected when shit went down. You wouldn't consider yourself a liar for it so stop treating her that way, then.
Look don't feel bad because the damage that your baby is going to do to her body is going to make her resent the hell out of you n just call it payback and move on with the situation🍼
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Believe me....😌
Thing is though, it's easy to say "yeh I'll get an abortion if I get pregnant " when your not pregnant, for a girl to feel a baby growing inside of her. Any loving girl would not be able to go through with it unless there was no other alternative. It's a good trait about her, surely you don't want a cold girl that sees it as nothing? She is probably devastated too and thinks her worlds over, especially if she feels alone or unsupported.hormones in tow but I know from experience, it's just not something a girl can do. When there are other options. We all make mistakes, all you can do now is do your best to support her, don't go and get engaged or anything just because she's pregnant. Wait and see if she's the one or rebuild your relationship if you feel it's lost. Plenty of people bring up a child apart or together, I'm just saying don't bring up marriage just because it's what you think you should do for babies sake. You both have enough on your plate right now