Is it normal for me to hate myself this much?

Is it normal to comepletely despise myself? I hate how I am. I hate myself comepletely, and every person is a saint for even putting up with my freakish existence. I hate myself for being bisexual, wanting to be a girl, being fat, being stupid... I am the only person I have ever wanted to die!!!!!

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  • barney93

    why is this in the sex category :x

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    • Jkhency2762

      Dont remember why I did that....

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  • 23rdian

    Stop dwelling on these first world problems, you may well be a mess right now (although prob better than you think) but you *can* change.

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    • Jkhency2762

      The problem is, even tho i hate these things, my grudge with mom and step dad are so deep id rather be the opposite of what they want, then what i want

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  • yeah its normal that you feel down but being bi and wanting to be a girl are two entirely different things. your transgender not bi. bi just means that you like both genders

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  • hybee

    I had a girlfriend like you. The bizarre thing was that although normal and very attractive, apart from being bipolar, she had this image of herself as a horrible, fat ugly loser, and nothing I could do would convince her otherwise. In reality she was very much liked, very attractve and in many ways a nice and intelligent person, but I could never convince her of this, and finally we split up when she refused to take her treatment for her bipolarity, as during the manic phase was the only time she felt liberated from her self-hatred.

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  • tehwalrus

    None of these things you hate yourself for are reason to hate someone. You sound clinically depressed, which totally fucks with your head, I should know.

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    • Jkhency2762

      Yeah, i feel better

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  • poojunction-r-us

    don't think of it as change, think of it as a clean slate. If none of this works then I have one more tactic. Find choose one thing you hate about yourself for example, your appearance. if you are overweight, think of it as being the luckiest person in the world because thousands of people are starving in the world. if you don't like that you are a boy, think of what its like to be a girl. I am and its not all its cracked up to be, you are depicted more in society and face more peer pressure and emotional/psychological damage more than boys. And also don't forget, if you think you are stupid, you have years to learn new thing while some people in the world can't even get an education or a job. I would also love to be bisexual, its so interesting and unique!

    you don't need to change if you are scared of it. all you need to do is get a new perspective of yourself:) hey if a guy can cut off his arm with a pocket knife, a girl can become a surfing champion with one arm, a lady can learn to speak and write a book being deaf and blind, then why wouldn't you be able to be just as strong. Everyone is important and amazing including you. Its not worth feeling this way when you have so many years left of your life!

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    • Thank you. Youre comments are actually really helping.

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      • poojunction-r-us

        no problem, I'm happy to help

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        • Jkhency2762

          Im starting with my weight for sure.

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  • poojunction-r-us

    what you want to do is find someone you ant to be like. it can be a celebrity, parent, friend or just someone you find interesting. if you don't like who you are, then change because i have been what you have been through. No matter what people tell me, "I'm pretty" or "really funny", it never seems like enough. So write down everything you don't like about yourself, put it in a box and throw it into a fire or in the bin. Its a really good feeling to detach yourself from your own hate. then you can work on your new attitude with you inspired role model. Picture yourself how they see the world. a tactic i used is to imagine the person is standing right in front of you, then mentally switch places with them for a second. you surprisingly get a good idea of that person. Good luck! plus freaks make the world go round, ordinary is overrated.

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    • Jkhency2762

      I love that idea... but despite my hatred... im scared of change...

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  • quentari

    If it's your parents or family situation that's pushing you to feel so bad about yourself then you either need to talk to your mum about it or find some way to cope through the next few years until you can move out (unless you have a friend or family member you could go live with?)

    You may have Gender identity disorder, if you're "male" but want to be "female". Only seeing a psychiatrist or therapist can confirm this though.

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    • Jkhency2762

      I am gonna convince my therapist that I have this... or try or something, maybe shell have advice

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      • quentari

        If you do have it there will be no need to "convince" her. Just bringing it up along with all your feelings about which gender you feel you are rather than physically are

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        • Jkhency2762

          okay, yeah, i guess

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  • Goomats

    I have issues with self-hate too. My only advice is to stay very busy and hang with people who don't hate you.

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    • Jkhency2762

      I do stay busy, writing music, which reflects my self hate more

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      • Goomats

        Yeah, I find that writing lyrics/music/stories makes me hate myself more too. I meant busy doing activities and hanging with people. I do it sometimes, but it leaves a nasty hangover of self-loathing.
        I have issues with my stature and my sexual desires as well. It's hard to deal, but I try to tell myself that my stature and what turns me on does not define me or make me less of a person and that people like me anyway. I wish you luck.

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        • Jkhency2762

          Im at the point where it doesnt bother me anymore, it seems like my mom does more than anyone anymore, i need to get the hell out of here

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  • IINQT

    You hate your self? Good.
    Sorry Grumpy Cat got into my brains:D
    Okay. I think you should do sports! I was a fat kid as well and I hated my self because of it! But then I started running every day! I lost a lot of weight, become helthier and very atractive, gain a lot of friends and a girlfriend:). Find sports you like and do it!

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    • Jkhency2762

      Okay, thanks

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  • Oh my god I hate the me that I've become. it's getting useless, getting bored. Truthfully I cannot be the me.. The me that I've washed up to be.

    Underoath - moving for the sake of motion

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    • Jkhency2762

      Awwww...

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  • Maya05

    I've been down similar roads from the sounds of it. I often feel disgust towards who I am. Going through periods where I can't even look at myself in the mirror because I hate who looks back at me so much. I also hate my sexuality at times and my gender even more times. Oddly I've never really cared about my weight though (I am over weight, I just figure I'll never be attractive anyways as a male, so why bother caring about my weight?) Wish I could give you advice but I can't even give myself advice. I just wanted to comment and show you that others feel similar. If that makes sense.

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    • Jkhency2762

      Read the Usotsuki Lily manga, you should like it... especially with the mirror thing. If youve punched a mirror out because theres a guy in the reflections (such as me, and the guy in this manga) then this will be really good to you. Thanks for the comment btw... it does make sense

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      • Maya05

        Can't say I've punched a mirror yet, but mostly because I don't want to pay for a new one.

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