Is it normal for me to hate my brother?

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Okay, thank you in advance.

I am 19 my brother is 14, we don't get along like at all. Let me start with some basic things you need to know to make a fair judgement. We have different fathers but his has been around since i was 4. mine left when i was 2 and texts me once in a while now. his dad who we will call "bob" was very tough on me growing up, nothing i could ever do pleased him, and he had no problem punishing me "tough love". He was "too" hard on me, everyone including him agrees. but with my brother its total opposite, he gives in. My brother has gotten pretty much everything hes wanted, when he gets in trouble or suspended from school, punishment isnt really punishment for him. He never stays in my room. my parents pretty much ignore the fact he doesnt listen to them. It may sound like im jealous at this point but i dont think i am. He has adhd, but has medicine for it. He is constanly aggervating me in one way or another. He will curse at me as he walks by, or say negative thing towards me, elbows me when walking by, throw things at me, flip me off, knock on my bedroom door and hide, calls me names, none of which he admits to. it may seem childish but hes been this way towards me for as long as i remember. Sometimes i just break down and cry, he makes me so angry i honestly hate him. i am very nice to him, hoping he will change but he doesnt/havent so ive stopped going out of my way to be nice. ive tried ignoring him i just cant lol. my parents think i need to "grow up" but they dont understand. My question is, Is it normal for me to hate him??

also anyother tips or comments are welcome

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  • xCurtisxMathisx
    13 years ago | pl

    deud iam so sorry wait ur are 19 move out get an apartment thats what i did be smart dont be a retard are you really gonna take advice from us? just leave ur house take all your stuff pack up and leave get a job at mcdonalds or dunkin donuts save your money dont spend like crazy, and by the end of the month you will be doing fine.forget youre parent even exist and if you cant do this than move in with your real father. thats not fair that abandonment.dont deal with these people make your brother cold everytime he sees you make his life story dont fuck with my brother man DONT FUCK WITH MY BROTHER DONT FUCK WITH MY BROTHER!!!.

    so there you have 3 options.
    1.move out get a job and a apartment become and adult early
    2.Move in with your real dad
    3.make your brother scared of you.

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  • Lizbit
    13 years ago | pl

    ADHD does NOT cause a person to be an ass. It does cause restless behavior and gives one a horrible attention span. (I have ADD some I know all about the attention end of things). My friends little brother (now a college junior) was diagnosed with ADHD around 7 and medicated but only durning the school year. On or off meds he has always been a sweet kid. Yes there would be sibling squabbles from time to time (there's about a 9 year age gap between him and his sister) but never the behavior mentioned here.
    In all honesty I think ADHD is OVER diagnosed. I seen many parents excuse bad behavior by saying 'they've got ADHD' but when asked never had it diagnosed and are the same parents who just want to be their kids friend (god for bid I raise my kid, isn't that what teachers are for?! -sorry that's another tangent). Any way yes your brother is an a-hole. Save up and move out soon since it's been going on so long I don't for see things changing in the future.

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  • LNDNxD
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm going through the exact same thing. My brother swears at me, steals my money, hits me, calls me fat, bangs on my door so much that once it fell off, etc, etc. He has meds for his ADHD too but it doesn't help very much at all. I sometime have to lock myself in my room and scream/cry so I don't go and do something i regret. i'm in the saaaaaaaame boat. good luck with your situation (:

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  • drugsrbadmkay
    10 years ago | pl

    Tie him to a tree and spray him with the garden hose.

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  • sleepmonster
    13 years ago | pl

    my brother deosnt have adhd but he acts like a jerk on a daily basis. Therefore I hate him. its good to know im not the only one that feels this way....its partly your parents fault...because my parents act the same way towards my brother. They spoil him and gives him whatever he wants...when he deos something wrong they act like its no big deal...
    if I do something wrong..all hell breaks loose! its not even fair..

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  • Alaxett
    13 years ago | pl

    I hate it when parents play favorite with their youngest chlid. I don't trust my little bro, but good thing he married to an insane woman way too early in life, sure love is blind IMO... Anyways, if your family treat you that way, why don't you move out to ease yourself into a fresh start? You're old enough to not take their sh*t.

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  • tonguetied
    13 years ago | pl

    We're in the same condition! :| I hate my brother as well. My mom would always defend him, IDK why. I've been telling my mom to discipline him while he's still 16 but she'd just say, "IDK what to do with him" I swear if I'm my brother's mom, I'd punish him!!!!!

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  • InvalidUsername666
    13 years ago | pl

    Do that Sh*t back to him! Elbow him when he walks by, cuss at him. Kick his A*s even.
    Show him, you are the older brother, therefore you are the dominant one.

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