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My husband has been unemployed and all he does all day long is play world of Warcraft and sleep. Is it normal for me to get angry at his lazy ass when I am the main provider n practically the man of the house
I am in the same situation. My lazy ass of a husband had bee unemployed for over 1.5 years. Before that he was out of work for another year until his friend got him a kob. That only lasted for 4 months. Now all he does is playing games on his iPhone and computer. He never does anything around the house since the beginning of our marriage. I hate him so much I just want to kick him out of the house and my life for good. I worked my whole life without any breaks. The only time I wasn't working was due to maternity leave of 4 months. I don't want to make my 11 years old daughter feel bad and I sure don't want to pay alimony. I am so stuck!!!
God I wish World of Warcraft would just disappear. There would be far fewer useless men on the planet. (Not that everyone who plays WoW is useless) but you are certainly not the first person I've heard this from, and all my ex ever did was play WoW. He's taking advantage of you. I agree with the previous poster. Give him an ultimatum and make sure he knows you mean business.
Stuff like WoW can be truly addictive. It messes with some of the same chemical receptors as any other addiction, but he isn't going to know that or feel any problem.
I hate admitting it myself but I quit playing WoW eight months ago and I still think about it and feel uncomfortable when I see advertisements or pics related to the game.
I was given an ultimatum eight months ago so I quit cold turkey.
The op never mentioned that she was unemployed. I say stick to your guns: men like to hoorah all the time how they are the "man of the house" and yet when it comes down to it they're just spoilt brats. Spoilt all their lives by their parents and then expect to be babies bytheir wives. You two are equal in your marriage and your relationship and he should be expected to contribute equally just as you are. As for the wow... He will get over it it's a phase. Kill them with kindness though. Don't nag, just make your point and leave it at that. It will eventually start working in his mind even though he won't you openly. He's stil learning to be independant from mommy's umbilical cord remember!? :)
if he is online, cancel the internet. if he is just playing on the computer, hide the computer or even sell it. or you could tell him that he can play it only if he does all the housework first. if he wants to act like a child then treat him like a child. buy him nappies too and a dummy.
My first husband was like that. No matter how hard I tried, he would never get a job. Even paid off his car (naïve idiot I was). Don't let him get away with it. He knows that since you aren't doing anything about it, he will continue to do so. Give him an ultimatum. Find a job within a certain amount of time and if not, leave him. And be true to it. You may love him to death, but if he isn't not wanting to man up and get a job, then hes no good. Hows it going to be if you ever have kids? Make him realize that he needs to grow up.
The real question is why did you think it was normal to tolerate his behavior?
Tell him if he isn't mature enough to participate in an EQUALLY leveled marriage (as it should be), then you are too mature for his antics.
You'll soon find out what kind of man he is with that kind of ultimatum.
Is this coming from someone who's choosing to believe that society smiles upon women who stay home all day and do nothing? Because no one thinks that's okay. Women who stay home all day and take care of children are another story. But a man or woman that stays home all day and plays WoW is a lazy bum, end of story.