Is it normal for me to feel this way about my boyfriend's habits?

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ok so me and my boyfriend live together with our 1 year old daughter and these are the things he does on a daily basis and you tell me if im supposed to feel this way(CRAZY) or i am overreacting:

comes home from work(8 hour shift)and goes straight on the xbox/internet till 2-3am(and trys waking me up to have sex afterwards)....

doesnt wash dishes/clean the stove after cooking/sweep the floor after dropping food on it.....

after chasing/playing/reading/feeding/changing/bathing/etc our 1 year old all day, he comes home and i ask him to watch her for a 10 minutes so i can take a warm bath or do the dishes after being completely exhausted, and he goes straight to the internet/xbox and tells me to wait until the quarter ends or wait till is chess match is over!!!!

when we argure/disagree upon something he walks away instead of discussing our issues...

i was committed to going to therapy once a week and he told me that he wanted to come so i told my therapist and he(my therapist) said it was a good idea and also that it would help with my issues and he never showed up and kept booking haircuts on the same day!!!

i would do all our laundry and i would fold all his clothes neatly in his drawers and the next day/or same day they would be thrown on the floor or on the dresser....

after taking our daughter a bath i would tell him to clean her ears with the Q-tip while i go get the lotion in the other room, and he tells me "i dont know how you do it" (like theres a certain way to clean an ear)

critizing me about the way i do things with my daughter(parenting wise)instead of discussing things together...

being completely useless about caring for our daughter after he done had a child already (hes 7 years old)you would think he would know a thing or two.....

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I just re-read your post...

    You don't have a job, other than taking care of your house and child?

    If that's the case; then you are responsible for taking care of the house as you are not working and your boyfriend is, so to complain about that would just make you seem lazy. However, the care of your child is both parents equal responsibility, so a break from parenting in the evening isn't too much to ask of the boyfriend.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    How you are feeling: Normal
    How you are dealing with the situation: Not Normal

    You are not crazy for being bothered by the things or lack of things he's doing.
    Why are you tolerating his childish behavior?

    If there are no real consequences from you for his immature behavior, then you are just nagging and nagging isn't doing something about it.

    By focusing on all the things he does that bother you, you are WASTING your precious little energy. Instead, you should focus on what you could be doing to improve the situation.

    It's up to you what you want to do about it. You could kick his sorry butt out... You could give him an ultimatum with a very REAL consequence, like leaving him... You could STOP doing everything & anything (laundry, cooking, cleaning) for him... You could get rid of the TV/Xbox/Computer... There are many options, I'm sure you can find a suitable one.

    Just stop complaining and take action.

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    Sounds like you picked a winner....

    I don't know what to tell you other than if my boyfriend acted that way, I'd be out so fast his head would spin. You don't have a partner and one child. You have two children.

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  • okbaby
    11 years ago

    First of all if he has never cleaned kids ears he could really hurt her bad.
    As far as his laundry goes don't do any of his laundry.
    Feed you and your daughter before he gets home. Do not clean up the mess after him. After a few days of that if he doesn't get the hint. Asked him if he likes living that way and if he doesn't change and let him live that way alone. You move and hit him for child support also.
    Good luck

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  • I'm a very strange person
    13 years ago

    Don't do anything drastic because you have a child and it's just a rough patch youll get through it and try not to make it a jeremy Kyle situation

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  • suspicion
    13 years ago

    Hes a loser. He's obviously not going to change his ways-you guys aren't seeing eye to eye. You want to do things a certain way and he wants to do it a different way. Either you accept him and his habbits or call it quits and find someone who better suits your needs.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Douch-bag!

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  • tasha
    13 years ago

    Why are you guys still together? Thats crazy..

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  • Vezaline
    14 years ago

    It almost sounds like a teenage son/mother relationship...
    You seem to spend most of your time picking up after him rather than actually spending any quality time with him or by yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yeah, if you don't have a job it's understandable. Get a job and then you can both take care of the household. Otherwise you need to do that while he works.

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