Maybe you were in love with the idea of being 'In Love' and the fact that he was so unavailable made him more interesting to you than he would have been had he lived close by. Also, when someone is that unavailable, we tend to fill in the details that we dont have with ideals, painting the best, hottest, sexiest, most exciting picture of the person our mind can imagine. But when they finally arrive, you will feel let down because not only are they not what you built them up to be, but since they are from another country, they are in many ways quite different from you. Also, when you strip out the impact of their unavailability, you get the other side of the continuum, which is to say, you immediately begin to take them for granted. If you really liked this guy at some point, then start fresh and just see where it goes. Its not like he came here to marry you, right?
Is it normal for me to fall out of love
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Maybe you were in love with the idea of being 'In Love' and the fact that he was so unavailable made him more interesting to you than he would have been had he lived close by. Also, when someone is that unavailable, we tend to fill in the details that we dont have with ideals, painting the best, hottest, sexiest, most exciting picture of the person our mind can imagine. But when they finally arrive, you will feel let down because not only are they not what you built them up to be, but since they are from another country, they are in many ways quite different from you. Also, when you strip out the impact of their unavailability, you get the other side of the continuum, which is to say, you immediately begin to take them for granted. If you really liked this guy at some point, then start fresh and just see where it goes. Its not like he came here to marry you, right?
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Perfect explanation. Was gonna say something similar to this, but no need.