Is it normal for me i enjoy my husband having sex with other women?

So I totally had to hi-jack this written text from another post on is it normal titled: "Is it normal to Like Your Man to Cheat On You?" I will admit that A LOT of what was written is exactly how I feel about my relationship with my husband, with a few significant differences. The first being that this type of unconventional sexual behavior between two consenting adults simply can not be classified as "cheating".

I recently discovered that I get incredibly turned on by my husband meeting, flirting and sexually conquering other women. My husband is athletic and has stamina for days, so when he has sex with other women they are completely caught off guard by this. There expectations of him still fucking them past 60 minutes is a total surprise when he just keeps going and going and going. So far, since we have opened our marriage he has not ejaculated on or in a female yet.

However, he is a complete body charmer and I enjoy and anticipate him coming home afterwards to tell me about it in detail how these anxious women came on his penis multiple times only to tire out before he could cum. However, I DO NOT like to experience the taste and smell of other women still on his body. So after he cleans up we talk all about it as I rub him down and prepare to finish him off. Usually, he is still so aroused by the power to handle two pussies in one night that he get me to nut more than a few times as well.

I'm not a swinger. I haven't yet discovered if being there when he fucks other women gets me jealous and fearful. But I do know that I still have small bouts of fear and jealousy that creep up inside me when he tells me that "It's about to go down." Our code for when he's going to be with one of his fish.

My husband does grant me the power to control it and negotiate it, with each conversation and milestone we have I find myself starting to let go of those silly notions. I also, don't want sex with anyone else. I've had past experiences with other boyfriends and partners by never experience as passionate, hot and open as with my husband. And I'm simply not interested in someone else's cock. However, the fantasies of watching and participating with one of my closest friends who just became recently divorced is what I am anxiously awaiting to experience, with this fantasy taking place in my mind long before we even discussed opening our marriage.

What turns me on about my husband sleeping with other women, is the opportunity to free myself of labels and stigmas that come with being a hetero-sexual, african-american female, married to an intelligent, strong african-american and that's one thing co-existing in happiness.

Any urge I feel to vie with the other woman doesn't interfere with his pleasure, but adds to it with me, and his attention is directed only at me. Then,the more unhibited the female was, with the more reserved my husband was - the more I get turned on. In some ways I vie to be stronger, more stable and more secure than her. I revel vicariously in his excitement, and if I get to listen or eaves-drop on her, that excites me too. It's like watching a porno, but the actor is my man. I love him to tell me she was great but I am better. I adore sharing what he did by talking about the experience in detail while we make love.

I want him to tell me exactly what they did, what it felt like, what she said, what noises she made, how she reacted, and how he reacted. I want to hear what she liked most and what he liked most. He was gorgeous when we met, still is to this day and he's great in bed. My friends envy me. So it's like showing him off.

I'm totally into to this. Sex with him has always been sensual, freaky and fun and after 10 years of knowing him it's due time to add a bit of nasty to the mix.

He's free to find his own partners, but I'm starting to explore the joy of finding women for him because it gives me a bit of a rush, and helps start my fantasy. It also helps me to put things a bit in perspective from a male point of view.

So far my friends who do know smile with excitement of the opportunity that they may have a chance with not only him but the both of us. Sometimes I think I'm nuts not to lock him down. But it turns me on, and we seem happier than many other married couples.

Please don't just tell me not to worry about what others think. I don't. But nobody likes to feel like a complete freak either. Is my abnormality normal at some level?

The poll questions I have posed are insecurities that have crept up when thinking of my husband having sex with another woman. My biggest concerns are the following: STD's whether transmitted from the mouth, anus and or vagina. Pregnancy. Lastly, the "emotional" bond that can potentially be established through hugging, kissing and spooning before, during and after one-on-one sex.