In the sense that most people don't do it, it's not normal to act on such fantasies, but the scenario you've described isn't all that uncommon.
As long as everyone is being honest and consents, I don't see the problem.
Some people believe humans just aren't wired to be monogamous for life. If your emotional connection to your wife is strong enough and you're secure enough about your value as a person and your value to her, then this sort of relationship can definitely work.
A good book on the topic: "Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them" by David J. Ley. It gets a little academic in places, but Ley explores in some depth what goes on in the minds of men who enjoy seeing their partners have sex with other men. The bottom line is that he concludes that most such men aren't mentally ill or still suffering from some horrendous psychological trauma in their youth, and many do it for positive reasons.
IIN for married couples to share their fantasies
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In the sense that most people don't do it, it's not normal to act on such fantasies, but the scenario you've described isn't all that uncommon.
As long as everyone is being honest and consents, I don't see the problem.
Some people believe humans just aren't wired to be monogamous for life. If your emotional connection to your wife is strong enough and you're secure enough about your value as a person and your value to her, then this sort of relationship can definitely work.
A good book on the topic: "Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them" by David J. Ley. It gets a little academic in places, but Ley explores in some depth what goes on in the minds of men who enjoy seeing their partners have sex with other men. The bottom line is that he concludes that most such men aren't mentally ill or still suffering from some horrendous psychological trauma in their youth, and many do it for positive reasons.