Is it normal for lesbians to hate strap-on's?

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So my whole reason for being a lesbian is because i think girls are hot, and because i dont like the thought of a mans dick in any hole of mine... My gf and i reciently started trying our hands at bondage... She thought it would be a lovly idea to tie me up while sleeping and then start fucking me with the dildo... So as it happened, i flipped out and she got really upset. Now she wont talk to me. Is this a normal feeling? Did i overreact?

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  • VirgilManly
    9 years ago

    Considering she pretty much started molesting you in your sleep it seems odd that she would be the one to get upset about it.

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    • CoraCook
      9 years ago

      I don't think waking up to your partner trying to pleasure you can be called molesting... Just a thought.

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      • VirgilManly
        9 years ago

        Being tied up and fucked with a dildo while you're sleeping is a little over the line of consent don't you think?

        Would you like to wake up and find your boyfriend tied you up and fucking you? Kind of psycho if you ask me. Who wouldn't freak out.

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        • CoraCook
          9 years ago

          "My gf and i reciently started trying our hands at bondage" makes it sound like it's part of their sexual game. Now I wonder if OP would have appreciated it without the dick part.

          If I were exploring bondage with him, I'd very much like to be woken up as you described. I think lots of people would. In fact, I think that being woken up by sex is something pretty common between partners.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            9 years ago

            To answer your question, i prolly would have...

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          • VirgilManly
            9 years ago

            Love to hear your definition of rape.
            At what point did she tell her girlfriend that it would be a great idea to tie her up while she's sleeping and penetrate her, especially since she doesn't like penetration?

            Seriously, I think there's a big difference between that and someone waking you up by going down on you. You have a loose interpretation of personal boundaries.

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            • CoraCook
              9 years ago

              Oh, well. I'd love to hear your take on sex altogether then.

              (I think this topic is worth a post all on its own)

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  • imadragon
    9 years ago

    You didn't overreact, that kind of sex just isn't for everybody, you don't have to like it. That's really odd she wont talk to you, in a relationship you need to be supportive of each other, especially when it comes to sex.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    SHE WON'T TALK TO YOU? Seems to me like it would be more plausible of it were the other way around. I am into kinky stuff too, but if my significant other Jammed a strap-on up my yahoo while I slept unaware, I would be mad as heck!

    Granted, that consensual Sex with someone whilst they sleep does work out well for some couples, but it is not for everyone.

    Open and honest communication is VERY important in an BDSM relationship. You really need to set her down and talk about this with her. If she's not even willing to do that, you may want to take a look at the relationship.

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    what you need is the kind of strap on that puts another dildo on your hole and she can fuck any hole she wants as long as she eats it out first

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      O.o

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  • CoraCook
    9 years ago

    Since I mentioned the pointlessness of sucking on a dildo earlier this week, I'll add that I fail to see anything interesting about them (whether shared with someone or not). The penis is alive, those shits are dead plastic.

    To the point, what do you mean you flipped out? She's probably hurt now because seemingly she just intended to please you. And clearly didn't.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Exactly my point! shes not talking to me because i hurt her fealings by not enjoying the 'surprise'. The fact is thst shes being insensitive to my feelings and that i dont like dick shaped things (dead or alive) in my holes...

      One key thing i learned is that its a brilliant idea to have signals when doing bondage. In this case we did not (considering i woke up to it -_-) and there for i was shit outta luck. The freaking out came after the ordeal.

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      • CoraCook
        9 years ago

        Just talk to her now and explain that you are not interested in any dick and what exactly you like about being with a woman.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Good idea :)

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