I think it's a really individual thing. My boyfriend used to have mostly girl friends, and talks to his mom about everything. It's just what he was used to. He since has made a lot more guy friends and now turns to them when he's going through something. Sounds like you guys just need to work on communication with each other. It may be something he just doesn't know how to do- nothing personal with you- just his own confrontational issues. I'm sure if you talk to him in a loving way about it as something you would like to work on together he would be open to it. Telling my boyfriend I want us to talk about things more gets a much different reaction than getting mad that he's talking to his friends-then he just gets defensive and feels like I'm trying to control him.
I guess I'm old school. I always thought that you should try to fix things with your partner rather than run to other people and spill all the details. It makes it very awkward for me b/c all his co-workers, family, etc know our marital issues. I don't tell anyone things that my husband does when we're not getting along b/c I feel like they will think he's a pig and when we do reconcile, they'll have bad feelings towards him. It's not a control thing, it's a matter of not wanting my private life shared with random people.
IIN for husband to talk about relationship issues w/female coworkers?
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I think it's a really individual thing. My boyfriend used to have mostly girl friends, and talks to his mom about everything. It's just what he was used to. He since has made a lot more guy friends and now turns to them when he's going through something. Sounds like you guys just need to work on communication with each other. It may be something he just doesn't know how to do- nothing personal with you- just his own confrontational issues. I'm sure if you talk to him in a loving way about it as something you would like to work on together he would be open to it. Telling my boyfriend I want us to talk about things more gets a much different reaction than getting mad that he's talking to his friends-then he just gets defensive and feels like I'm trying to control him.
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I guess I'm old school. I always thought that you should try to fix things with your partner rather than run to other people and spill all the details. It makes it very awkward for me b/c all his co-workers, family, etc know our marital issues. I don't tell anyone things that my husband does when we're not getting along b/c I feel like they will think he's a pig and when we do reconcile, they'll have bad feelings towards him. It's not a control thing, it's a matter of not wanting my private life shared with random people.