Please try to think twice about the following possibility: He has some hook or fetish which he feels he can't let you know (because you would be disgusted or laugh at him - that is what a fetishist fears!). But he needs it for his arousal, so masturbates all the time to this fantasy - and you think his sex drive is low.
If so, it is not a question of what you put on. You'd have to be truely open for any kind of topic. Never reject spontaneously what may sound strange or weird: Your husband will most certainly test if he has any chance to be accepted by what gets him going. As you know him for a long time already, he will have made his attempts already I fear, and possibly given up after your reaction.
It need not be like that. But I know two cases where it was exactly like I said.
Is it normal for husband to only want sex occassionally???
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Please try to think twice about the following possibility: He has some hook or fetish which he feels he can't let you know (because you would be disgusted or laugh at him - that is what a fetishist fears!). But he needs it for his arousal, so masturbates all the time to this fantasy - and you think his sex drive is low.
If so, it is not a question of what you put on. You'd have to be truely open for any kind of topic. Never reject spontaneously what may sound strange or weird: Your husband will most certainly test if he has any chance to be accepted by what gets him going. As you know him for a long time already, he will have made his attempts already I fear, and possibly given up after your reaction.
It need not be like that. But I know two cases where it was exactly like I said.