Is it normal for husband to only want sex occassionally???

Don't have an affair. I feel like in this situation, maybe it's you that has to change? I don't mean to be a damper, but if he has a low sex drive, then you need to respect that. It's that same if you had a low sex drive, he would have to respect you to. Your married, you can't just go out and cheat. Or atleast you shouldn't. Try to be more understanding with him. As for your personal needs, I know it sucks, but I'd say deal with it! lol Your not going to explode. If that won't work for you, I recommend masterbating. Maybe be try playing with yourself while he's in bed with your or something, it migth get him going. If it doesn't then your getting something for yourself atleast

Could there be a possibility that your husband is suffering from erectile dysfunction?

I would give my right arm to have a wife who put that kind of effort and enthusiasm into our love life. You are worth your weight in gold. I wish my beautiful but disinterested wife would put a tenth of the effort you do.

He could be depressed. Health issues can take allot out of a person. Medications can also cause many unwanted side-effects. Erectile Dysfunction is a possibility as well. Have you ever asked him if anything was wrong?

If I were you I would then sit in front of him and start masturbating or doing something in the form of play to turn him on that would definately make him react.

If he has heart health issues...he may be hesitant to participate in sexual activity for the fear of aggravating his cardiac condition...Like an earlier post...I do believe some the side effects of some cardiac medication is erectile dysfunction

I think he's a turd burgler

I haven't read the other answers but you should be more "aggresive". Wearing lingerie and perfume is not what turns us on, you have to show him you desire him, not only tell him and wait for him to do something.

It isn't HORRIBLE, however, it isn't the best thing, you know.

You are trying too hard. If he doesn't want sex and it's important to you then you have to reevaluate the marriage. If he can't meet you in the middle then he's selfish and you must either go without or ditch him and his excuses.

Did you ever asked yourself that he might be gay?

I think this is very abnormal. Men are programmed to want sex all the tiime.

If I was in that situation and my wife did that stuff, I'd be six feet under! I'm 38 and my wife is dead fish. I couldn't get any from her if I tried. I'm almost to the point where I'd have an affair if I can find the right person.

I think his meds may have a lot to do with this it may be causing him some erectile problems that he is embarrassed about. You guys need to communicate and get to the bottom of it. It sounds like you have tried everything so just discuss it with him in a nice respectful manner and see what happens

Depends on how fat you have gotten.

Men always want sex, i know that and i am only 16. I dont have a husband of any kind and am kida of slutty so have bf. If i were u i wouldnt remain quiet i would go to him naked start masturbating and then grab his stick out and strt oraly and kinda of make him do it. I wouldnt wait for an answer . He might also be gay though, ge might be afraid to tell u so he just avoids sex. He might be cheating on u aswell...

I have been with my fiancee for 3 years. She always wants sex and I rarely do. I don't know why, but I would usually rather just lay down and talk or watch a movie and this always frustrates her.

He does not have erectile dysfunction. He has been known to take viagra (which he is not supposed to take due to his heart disease), as he says it gives him more energy even the next day. However, he can perform perfectly well without it. The problem is, when he is in the mood, as we dont have sex often enough, it is over in 30 seconds flat. I told him the other day that if we have sex twice a week (what I consider normal), then that equates to 104 intimate times per year. However, if it drops to once every three weeks, then it drops dramatically to 17 times per year. Thankyou everyone for your input. I really appreciate it.

From a guy, he's cheating on you cuz sex is'nt good and the heart dissease is just an excuse.

when you get an answer-TELL ME my wife is the way your husband is-I want it-she uses excuses she is 30 and I am 57---figure that? and I do have ED but I still try and try-use pills-rings-but still nothing from her

I'd say taking into consideration age, and health concerns it's possible that his health has taken a toll on his confidence aswell as his physical well being. Men who experience shortness of breath and have low blood flow also can suffer from impotency, it may be his fears of having that happen aswell driving him away from having sex with such a desireable woman. On another note

I'm a relatively young person and I have a semi-low sex drive compared to most my age. I have gone many weeks without really wanting sex but when I do want to have sex I tend to go all out and have wild fun filled nights that last literally for over 4 hours. He may be like me and it's not anything you can do, but I do have a bit of depression and as it ebbs and flows and my moods change my sex drive does with it aswell.

that gets me back to his CONFIDENCE! If he's had some rough times and is struggling with his aging it's very possible it has driven him into a depressive state and his body is literally unable to produce the hormones necessary for excitement and arrousal because his mind isn't kicking them on due to his own depression.

This is something I would consult a psychologist and medical professional on to see if it's something that needs a pill or something you need to sit down with him and have some good quality you and him time to let him know he's loved and has no reason to feel such ways.

Please try to think twice about the following possibility: He has some hook or fetish which he feels he can't let you know (because you would be disgusted or laugh at him - that is what a fetishist fears!). But he needs it for his arousal, so masturbates all the time to this fantasy - and you think his sex drive is low.
If so, it is not a question of what you put on. You'd have to be truely open for any kind of topic. Never reject spontaneously what may sound strange or weird: Your husband will most certainly test if he has any chance to be accepted by what gets him going. As you know him for a long time already, he will have made his attempts already I fear, and possibly given up after your reaction.
It need not be like that. But I know two cases where it was exactly like I said.

Have him work you over with a vibrator.