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This girl that I am really good friends with and I asked out earlier has been undecided about whether or not she wants to go out with me. When I finally got her to explain the situation, she said that she is hesitant to go out with me because if something bad would happen then it would ruin our friendship.
Is this normal?
Does anyone have feed back about what this could really mean and how I can convince to go out with me? If so, thank you.
I did this to my high school boyfriend. He asked me out and I was hesitant because I didn't want to mess up the friendship. Plus I was wary because there was a decent age difference. We were freinds for a good year after he initially asked me out--practically inseparable though. By then I had known for awhile that I really wanted to be with him. We dated for about two years, it was a pretty awesome relationship, and we're still freinds now.
When girls say this they mean it. Girls don't necessarily hang out with guys because they are sexually attracted to them they hang out and make friends with guys based on their personality. Sexual attraction can grow over time with girls. (ive been told with guys they are either attracted or their not). a lot of people can't change from being someone friend to girlfriend/boyfriend back to friend. it's not like changing gears on a car! She is worried it will go friend, boyfriend then if it doesn't work out nothing. She is weighing up the risk and might choose remaining your friend then taking the risk. All you can do is give her sometime and just go with the flow.
Women lol. Yeah that's normal. Get her drunk and hit that shit, inhibition ruins so many would-be good things. Lol no. Tell her it's already ruined because you have a mad crush on her and say it's difficult for u to be JUST friends. But be careful not to stray towards a threat. Don't make it sound like ur gonna drop her on her ass If she doesn't meet ur needs.
Yes 100% because you never know she could just be waiting to get it straightened out in her head like what would happen if you two split and would that ruin your friendship. But in my honest opinion just be patient because if you truly care for her like you made obvious by wanting to ask her out, then be patient and be good to her no matter the outcome dont let any decision destroy your already formed friendship. And this is coming from a guy so i might not be covering how sensitive a girl can be in a tough posotion like this, but yeah just give her time and always be supportive because that could make it happen for you!!! Hope this helps
Man, Its normal. I'm a girl and always wondered what would happen if my best guy friend asked me out. He has a great personality and is attractive but my friendship always felt more valuable.
I didn't want to jeoperdize what we already had. Just being with him without any obligations is great.
Honestly if he were to ask me out, I would decline and explain myself.
But Id be happy he thought of me that way.
its totally normal for friends to say that. and it wont necessarily ruin your friendship... it will just change your friendship. maybe for the better. maybe she likes you but is afraid of losing you as a friend. or maybe she is just letting you down lightly and using it as an excuse rather than saying "i dont like you like that"
It's the awkward friend stage. Both of you like each other, but neither of you want to ruin the current relationship. Since you asked her out, things are going to change, no matter what.
I would wait and see. If she's still unsure in a couple of days, take it as a "Sorry, I don't like you that way."