I don't think you're forcing her into it, but the way this post is written makes me uneasy, particularly the "just one" part. The whole tone of your post sounds like you're begging like a child trying to get their parents to buy candy, not like you're discussing this as an adult. Is this how you're talking to your fiancée about it? Are you listening to her reasons, or are you just trying to convince her? Have you asked her why she doesn't want kids? Are you even sure that she doesn't want them, and that this isn't a matter of her not wanting to be pushed at the moment?
You need to talk to her like an adult and listen to her side of the story. Don't try to persuade her, just listen.
I think its kind of an important issue and if she isnt talking about it at all then it could be a stumbling block for them.
Saying "I MIGHT want one later" isnt the same as saying I want kids but not right now.
I think the OP has a right to find out if their lives are going in the same direction or if he is walking into a marriage that will never satisfy his want and need to have a family.
Lol no problem. I understand because I just went through the same thing with my girlfriend. She at first was strong about never having children but I didn't let it get to me because how much I love her. Now, she brings up having children and it being a girl and picking names sometimes. Even if she is against children, it may change. My girlfriend is only 21 years of age though so we have a long time to wait and see what happens.
Is it normal For her to never want kids?
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Thank you! every one here thinks I'm forcing her into it and being all "I want kids now bitch".
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I don't think you're forcing her into it, but the way this post is written makes me uneasy, particularly the "just one" part. The whole tone of your post sounds like you're begging like a child trying to get their parents to buy candy, not like you're discussing this as an adult. Is this how you're talking to your fiancée about it? Are you listening to her reasons, or are you just trying to convince her? Have you asked her why she doesn't want kids? Are you even sure that she doesn't want them, and that this isn't a matter of her not wanting to be pushed at the moment?
You need to talk to her like an adult and listen to her side of the story. Don't try to persuade her, just listen.
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I think its kind of an important issue and if she isnt talking about it at all then it could be a stumbling block for them.
Saying "I MIGHT want one later" isnt the same as saying I want kids but not right now.
I think the OP has a right to find out if their lives are going in the same direction or if he is walking into a marriage that will never satisfy his want and need to have a family.
Lol no problem. I understand because I just went through the same thing with my girlfriend. She at first was strong about never having children but I didn't let it get to me because how much I love her. Now, she brings up having children and it being a girl and picking names sometimes. Even if she is against children, it may change. My girlfriend is only 21 years of age though so we have a long time to wait and see what happens.