She might not never want kids. Most people on this site will tell you they never want kids, but in the fullness of time I think most of them eventually will. When people say "never", what they usually mean is "not in the foreseeable future", "not unless my mindset changes itself drastically". The thing is, people are biologically programmed to want children eventually. Very few people will truly NEVER want kids at some time in their life. In the fullness of time she might very well change her mind and decide she does want kids. We're talking potentially years before that change happens though, not any time in the foreseeable future, and there's no guarantee she will change her mind.
I understand you wondering "why not now", and I don't think it's wrong to wonder why she feels as she does. You want to know if there's a problem so you can fix the problem, you want to know if she's unhappy so you can know how to make her happy. If she's made a sudden u-turn it makes sense to wonder if something has happened and worry about it.
The way you write your story, it makes me think of you as someone who brings this up to her very often and is constantly asking about kids. If that's true, it might make her worry that you only want to use her as a baby-maker and that you don't love her for her. That's a hell of a lot of speculation and guess-work on my part, but it's a possibility I would consider if I were you.
I think it depends just how big of an issue having kids is for you. It depends if you want to take the huge risk of throwing away a woman you are in love with, connect with in every way, who wants to marry you AND still might one day have kids with you, all for the chance of finding another woman who will definitely have kids and will make you just as happy in all the other ways your soon-to-be wife does now.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you both?
I haven't mentioned it in weeks, and I barely did mention it... only twice. I just wanna know her feelings about them, and if she ever does want them. She's not a baby maker to me, but I've always wanted to be a father. It's just me can't help it. On the matter of age, I can only say we are young. Don't wanna give it out but we are no where near kids we have our whole lives in front of us and I plan to live it, but I want children in the end. If she doesn't want children I'll end up leaving her, but for the time being I'm keeping my mouth shut.
Is it normal For her to never want kids?
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She might not never want kids. Most people on this site will tell you they never want kids, but in the fullness of time I think most of them eventually will. When people say "never", what they usually mean is "not in the foreseeable future", "not unless my mindset changes itself drastically". The thing is, people are biologically programmed to want children eventually. Very few people will truly NEVER want kids at some time in their life. In the fullness of time she might very well change her mind and decide she does want kids. We're talking potentially years before that change happens though, not any time in the foreseeable future, and there's no guarantee she will change her mind.
I understand you wondering "why not now", and I don't think it's wrong to wonder why she feels as she does. You want to know if there's a problem so you can fix the problem, you want to know if she's unhappy so you can know how to make her happy. If she's made a sudden u-turn it makes sense to wonder if something has happened and worry about it.
The way you write your story, it makes me think of you as someone who brings this up to her very often and is constantly asking about kids. If that's true, it might make her worry that you only want to use her as a baby-maker and that you don't love her for her. That's a hell of a lot of speculation and guess-work on my part, but it's a possibility I would consider if I were you.
I think it depends just how big of an issue having kids is for you. It depends if you want to take the huge risk of throwing away a woman you are in love with, connect with in every way, who wants to marry you AND still might one day have kids with you, all for the chance of finding another woman who will definitely have kids and will make you just as happy in all the other ways your soon-to-be wife does now.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you both?
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I haven't mentioned it in weeks, and I barely did mention it... only twice. I just wanna know her feelings about them, and if she ever does want them. She's not a baby maker to me, but I've always wanted to be a father. It's just me can't help it. On the matter of age, I can only say we are young. Don't wanna give it out but we are no where near kids we have our whole lives in front of us and I plan to live it, but I want children in the end. If she doesn't want children I'll end up leaving her, but for the time being I'm keeping my mouth shut.