Ask her bluntly. If she doesn't want to have a child with yo, or anyone, leave her. Explain to her that one of the main things I want from a relationship is to turn it in to a family, and that you can't do it if she doesn't want a child.
She is well within her rights not to want a child, and if she doesn't want one, don't try argue her in to having one, it will be damaging to the woman, and the connection between the mother and child might not be there.
You, however, are well within your rights to leave her for someone that is willing to give you what you want from a relationship (a family). You go in to a relationship to get what both partners want from it, and if this is what you want from a relationship, yet not getting it, it is not at all wrong to leave her for someone that will be willing to have a child with you.
If she continues to stall, still leave her. If you are at an age that nakes it difficult to be a father, then you need to act on this very soon.
I personally think you should leave her for someone that will suit your needs. It is within her right to not have children, and it is within your rights to leave the person that won't have a child with you, for someone that will have a child with you.
Well Honestly I don't want children now at all. I want children at 35ish years old. I'm not trying to rush her, and I will leave her if she never does wanna have kids...
Ok. Just be careful. While you wait until 35, you might find out she still doesn't want any, then you will have to spend atleast a year or two to find a woman that's right for you that would be a good mother. Remember, just because you leave her at 35 doesn't mean you'll find a female within the first year that suits you, and then you also have to wait until she is ready to have a child with you, which can take a few years.
Well we've got 15ish years until 35. If she doesn't want any in the next 5 years (that is if we stay together) I'll always love her but she can't make me happy. I want kids to carry me on.
I really am confused on the "carry me on" part of this response. How does having kids carry anyone on? Cant you just live your life for your own satisfaction, work a job to support yourself and spend your free time doing what you want to do?
I dont have anything against kids, (dont have much for them either) but I really find myself confused by this absurd pressure men place on themselves for marriage and then kids. Being married and having kids is not something you "have to do" in life. Or need to do to "carry on".
Is it normal For her to never want kids?
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Ask her bluntly. If she doesn't want to have a child with yo, or anyone, leave her. Explain to her that one of the main things I want from a relationship is to turn it in to a family, and that you can't do it if she doesn't want a child.
She is well within her rights not to want a child, and if she doesn't want one, don't try argue her in to having one, it will be damaging to the woman, and the connection between the mother and child might not be there.
You, however, are well within your rights to leave her for someone that is willing to give you what you want from a relationship (a family). You go in to a relationship to get what both partners want from it, and if this is what you want from a relationship, yet not getting it, it is not at all wrong to leave her for someone that will be willing to have a child with you.
If she continues to stall, still leave her. If you are at an age that nakes it difficult to be a father, then you need to act on this very soon.
I personally think you should leave her for someone that will suit your needs. It is within her right to not have children, and it is within your rights to leave the person that won't have a child with you, for someone that will have a child with you.
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Well Honestly I don't want children now at all. I want children at 35ish years old. I'm not trying to rush her, and I will leave her if she never does wanna have kids...
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Ok. Just be careful. While you wait until 35, you might find out she still doesn't want any, then you will have to spend atleast a year or two to find a woman that's right for you that would be a good mother. Remember, just because you leave her at 35 doesn't mean you'll find a female within the first year that suits you, and then you also have to wait until she is ready to have a child with you, which can take a few years.
Just be careful with the times.
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Well we've got 15ish years until 35. If she doesn't want any in the next 5 years (that is if we stay together) I'll always love her but she can't make me happy. I want kids to carry me on.
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I really am confused on the "carry me on" part of this response. How does having kids carry anyone on? Cant you just live your life for your own satisfaction, work a job to support yourself and spend your free time doing what you want to do?
I dont have anything against kids, (dont have much for them either) but I really find myself confused by this absurd pressure men place on themselves for marriage and then kids. Being married and having kids is not something you "have to do" in life. Or need to do to "carry on".
Good call. I hope you the best in having children.
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Thanks :)
Wait, is she the same age as you? Female fertility starts to decline around age 30, and begins to do so significantly at about age 35.