Well the problem is we connect on every other level...she said she wants some before and she thought about it and we used to talk about names but it just stopped all the sudden... I just wanna know how to talk to her about it. Her parents said she was hard to raise. Maybe thats it, but the real problem is she wont talk to me about it.
Have you talked openly about it or are you just mentioning kids, as you made it sound in your original post? You could address the topic directly, tell her how you feel, let her know you don't want to pressure her into having kids, but that you would very much like to hear her stance on the subject. If needed you can even give her time to think about it. That seems a delicate way to approach it. Speaking of important and essential things indirectly never amounts to getting to know real opinions or feelings and reaching understanding between two people.
I do mention it openly. And if she doesn't want kids I just wanna know why... She just neglects to tell me over and over. I know how to communicate with her but she refuses to talk about it. And when I ask her why she doesn't respond and we've been arguing for the past month because she won't open up to me...
Then I guess I'm out of things to say. Although as I read your reply what occurred to me is that if you've been arguing, perhaps you should first check if the relationship is really going well. I'm not implying it isn't. It was just a thought that crossed my mind.
Is it normal For her to never want kids?
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Well the problem is we connect on every other level...she said she wants some before and she thought about it and we used to talk about names but it just stopped all the sudden... I just wanna know how to talk to her about it. Her parents said she was hard to raise. Maybe thats it, but the real problem is she wont talk to me about it.
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Have you talked openly about it or are you just mentioning kids, as you made it sound in your original post? You could address the topic directly, tell her how you feel, let her know you don't want to pressure her into having kids, but that you would very much like to hear her stance on the subject. If needed you can even give her time to think about it. That seems a delicate way to approach it. Speaking of important and essential things indirectly never amounts to getting to know real opinions or feelings and reaching understanding between two people.
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I do mention it openly. And if she doesn't want kids I just wanna know why... She just neglects to tell me over and over. I know how to communicate with her but she refuses to talk about it. And when I ask her why she doesn't respond and we've been arguing for the past month because she won't open up to me...
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Then I guess I'm out of things to say. Although as I read your reply what occurred to me is that if you've been arguing, perhaps you should first check if the relationship is really going well. I'm not implying it isn't. It was just a thought that crossed my mind.
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Well it was. I just wanna be able to talk to her with out yelling at eachother... :( thanks for trying :/