My brother is actually in a very similar situation right now. His girlfriend has always been slightly overweight, but she's suddenly ballooned and put on alot of weight. The doctor has said to her that she is clinically obese and needs to lose at least 20 pounds, and my brother suggested they lose weight together etc - she didn't want to. Eventually, he ended up saying something that hurt her feelings, and now he feels like the bad guy. He felt like he needed her to do something for the health of their sex life and their relationship, and that's not his fault. At the end of the day, physical attraction is immensely important in a relationship - it's not the fault of the partner that their boyfriend or girlfriend has suddenly changed, they've stayed the same. I think if she cared about him (my brother truly loves his gf and he's not thinking about dumping her, I'm just saying that it can cause genuine problems) she wouldn't have dumped him, but have tried to help - but I don't think it's fair to call her a bitch. Different things matter to different people, and this was clearly a dealbreaker for her.
Is it normal for her to break up with her boyfriend over this?
← View full post
My brother is actually in a very similar situation right now. His girlfriend has always been slightly overweight, but she's suddenly ballooned and put on alot of weight. The doctor has said to her that she is clinically obese and needs to lose at least 20 pounds, and my brother suggested they lose weight together etc - she didn't want to. Eventually, he ended up saying something that hurt her feelings, and now he feels like the bad guy. He felt like he needed her to do something for the health of their sex life and their relationship, and that's not his fault. At the end of the day, physical attraction is immensely important in a relationship - it's not the fault of the partner that their boyfriend or girlfriend has suddenly changed, they've stayed the same. I think if she cared about him (my brother truly loves his gf and he's not thinking about dumping her, I'm just saying that it can cause genuine problems) she wouldn't have dumped him, but have tried to help - but I don't think it's fair to call her a bitch. Different things matter to different people, and this was clearly a dealbreaker for her.