this is a common problem. i think your fiancee has been trying to keep his daughter in the loop by checking with her and asking permission so that she doesn't feel abandoned. the problem is that the kid's view of her place in the family has become skewed. although it's looking like your little girl is the issue, it may just be that the 13 year old is feeling replaced by you.
either way, this is probably a somewhat typical reaction from her because of the circumstances, but now she thinks she can call the shots, which i wouldn't advise she be allowed.
no doubt, when it was just the two of them, it was easy for the father to treat the girl as if they were a team, but that isn't proving advantageous now.
i think the father and daughter need to have a "sit down" talk. hopefully, your intended can find a way to make his child understand that although the two of them made up their family for quite some time, it is now time to move on and develop a more normal existance for himself. she may understand that in the near future, she may want a boyfriend for herself, and she will be glad that dad isn't trying to stop that from happening.
i would imagine that there are some self help books out there to help guide the way through a situation like this. hopefully you can find resolution for this quickly.
is it normal for her to act this way?
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this is a common problem. i think your fiancee has been trying to keep his daughter in the loop by checking with her and asking permission so that she doesn't feel abandoned. the problem is that the kid's view of her place in the family has become skewed. although it's looking like your little girl is the issue, it may just be that the 13 year old is feeling replaced by you.
either way, this is probably a somewhat typical reaction from her because of the circumstances, but now she thinks she can call the shots, which i wouldn't advise she be allowed.
no doubt, when it was just the two of them, it was easy for the father to treat the girl as if they were a team, but that isn't proving advantageous now.
i think the father and daughter need to have a "sit down" talk. hopefully, your intended can find a way to make his child understand that although the two of them made up their family for quite some time, it is now time to move on and develop a more normal existance for himself. she may understand that in the near future, she may want a boyfriend for herself, and she will be glad that dad isn't trying to stop that from happening.
i would imagine that there are some self help books out there to help guide the way through a situation like this. hopefully you can find resolution for this quickly.