The difference between what you've described and those other couples is that both parties must be equally committed. It sounds as though you and this guy aren't even dating, because he doesn't have time and is pursuing his career? When my husband and I started dating I was young and in undergrad, he's a bit older and was working - out of the country, pursuing his dream of a career that can only be pursued in youth. He pressured me to transfer to a university near him, but I was also living my academic dream and unwilling to do that. It took compromise and respect on both of our parts - we were long distance for years. YEARS! Being away from your boyfriend every Valentines Day sucked. Taking 10 hour flights to see him over holiday breaks that he didn't share sucked. It worked because we BOTH respected the other's dreams, but more importantly because we wanted to be together. There wasn't a wait until later, it was a let's be together now even if it's on less than ideal terms. Those things are key.
Is it normal for guys to not commit because of other priorities?
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The difference between what you've described and those other couples is that both parties must be equally committed. It sounds as though you and this guy aren't even dating, because he doesn't have time and is pursuing his career? When my husband and I started dating I was young and in undergrad, he's a bit older and was working - out of the country, pursuing his dream of a career that can only be pursued in youth. He pressured me to transfer to a university near him, but I was also living my academic dream and unwilling to do that. It took compromise and respect on both of our parts - we were long distance for years. YEARS! Being away from your boyfriend every Valentines Day sucked. Taking 10 hour flights to see him over holiday breaks that he didn't share sucked. It worked because we BOTH respected the other's dreams, but more importantly because we wanted to be together. There wasn't a wait until later, it was a let's be together now even if it's on less than ideal terms. Those things are key.